She’s Flirting With My Boyfriend! A Survival Guide

" 'If they’re friends on social media, she’s the one liking every single post' this brought a smile to my face, how many times have I heard this complaint, but its so very true. 

Come on girls we should all be supporting the same side, so do everyone a favour and get your own boyfriend, leave the ones that are taken alone'.            -  Susan

She’s Flirting With My Boyfriend! A Survival Guide

Nearly every relationship is challenged by a poacher. She might be a co-worker, a ‘friend,’ an ex, or perhaps just some drunk at your local watering hole. Sometimes the situation can be a lot worse. If it’s your friend, or a neighbour, this can turn the situation very sour, very quickly.

So how do you deal with a relationship poacher? First, you need to make sure that the girl is definitely on the prowl, and you’re not getting worked up over nothing. Luckily, the signs are loud and clear.

Signs That She’s A Poacher

• She randomly appears wherever you go
• Girl will talk your boyfriend’s ear off…but she won’t include you in the conversation
• She’ll avoid making eye contact with you when she talks to him
• Although she may throw you a bitchy smile when he’s not looking
• Any opportunity to touch him, she’ll take it
• If they’re friends on social media, she’s the one liking every. single. post
• But if you’re in his post, then she’s never clicked ‘like’
• She may call or text him at odd hours

This behaviour would be enough to enrage anyone! But before you go Cat 5. Hulk, STOP. It’s time to take a deep breath, count to five, and read this guide.

Step One – Don’t Surrender Your Power

A woman who hits on a taken man has issues. She might be desperate for attention, and is almost guaranteed to be cripplingly insecure. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that those two traits often spell disaster. The worst thing you can do is feed her desire for attention by getting angry, or confronting her. By acknowledging her as a threat to your relationship, you’re handing over your power.

For some crazy ladies, ending up with your man isn’t even her real goal. She might want to see if she’s hot enough to threaten you! It could be a challenge, rather than an invasion. Keep your sense of humour, and laugh at her antics! Isn’t it a little embarrassing that she’s behaving like this?

Step Two – Be Assertive 

When a girl hits on your boyfriend, make it clear that you’re together. Homegirl might be drunk and not realize that the two of you were official (yeah, right), BUT give her a chance to see that her target is spoken for. Hug, kiss, or pull your boyfriend away to dance. If she pursues, be assertive. If she’s talking to him, hold your boyfriend’s hand and interrupt her if it’s going on for too long. If she’s brazenly trying to take him on the dance floor, whip out your iPhone and start filming. You’d be surprised how reluctant people are to act like fools, when there’s a danger of it going viral. Feel free to yell across the dance floor ‘Ha! This will do great on YouTube!’

Step Three – Communicate

If she’s still making the moves on your man, after steps one and two, it’s time to hand this one over to your boyfriend. He should be responsible for defusing the situation.

A relationship without communication is like a bucket with a hole in it. No matter how much you pour into it, the bucket will always be empty. If a woman flirts with your man, discuss it with him. Be reasonable. Don’t be accusatory. If your relationship is the real deal, he’ll understand and find a way to get rid of the interloper. It’s ultimately the responsibility of your boyfriend to step in, and tell this chick to back off. If he gets super defensive, and seems to be enjoying her attention, be on red alert.

Step Four – Analyse

Let’s say your boyfriend did no wrong. The girl pounced on him like a mountain lion. Yet he did everything in his power to avoid her. You may still feel shaken to the core. We become territorial over our partners. When someone thinks that they can take away someone you love, it can be a scary sensation. If your boyfriend is acting legit, don’t allow your fear to cause you to lash out. Acting jealous and angry towards your boyfriend can cause more damage to your relationship than this girl. But showing that you can handle conflict with grace could strengthen your relationship. And if your man has acted trustworthy, now you may feel a deeper bond of trust and love! You might end up thanking Skanky McPhee for strengthening your love for each other! But we won’t count on it…

The Do’s & The Don’ts

Do

• Stay calm
• Be assertive, and present
• Keep a sense of humour
• Observe his behaviour
• Sober up before making any decisions
• Out flirt her!
• Use a Reverse Phone Lookup if you find any numbers in the back pocket of his jeans the following day
• Communicate

Don’t

• Get angry
• Lash out
• Throw your drink
• Get physical
• Accuse your boyfriend of cheating
• Get into a public argument
• Flirt with another guy to even the score

What would you do if someone started flirting with your boyfriend?

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5 REASONS NICE GUYS DATE AWFUL WOMEN

"Just like some females are attracted to the bad boy, some men like to chase the bitch. Maybe its because they think that the bitchiness or bossiness will carry on into the bedroom, maybe they like a strong woman who will tell them what to do. Alternatively it could be that they are attracted to their self-confidence and do not feel intimidated by them, they like the excitement that comes with somebody who is not predictable. Or perhaps its because they want what they can't have."       - Susan

5 REASONS NICE GUYS DATE AWFUL WOMEN

Are you attracted to high-maintenance women?

Ever been trapped in this scenario? Maybe you were on a plane. Maybe you were in a restaurant—wherever you were, you couldn’t help but overhear the conversation of a couple seated in close proximity. The woman spewed a seemingly unending list of demands, complaints, invectives and put-downs, while her paramour looked on helplessly. Perhaps out of sympathy (but more likely, self-preservation), your hand crept to your lap, shielding your own tender jewels from the ball-consuming fury spewing forth like a radioactive cloud. All you could do was silently scream, “Run, you fool! Get the hell out of there before that evil succubus (read: bitch) eats you alive!”

These days, “bitch” is a term that’s bandied about with fair frequency, even outside the AKC. It's even become a point of pride for select women hoping to becoming a better seductress. For many in modern culture, it’s cool to be cruel.

On the other hand, if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, and acts like a bitch…well, you know the rest. We're sure that at least one of your buddies (or maybe even you) is dating one. If you’ve ever wondered why your pal’s voluntarily surrendered his man card and settled in for the long slow ride to the Land of the Cojones Perdidos, read on.

THE “HARD TO GET” FACTOR

Just as Groucho Marx famously said, “I don’t care to belong to any club that will have me as a member,” men famously do not want what they can have with ease, especially women. (Can you imagine if men selected fruit using the same criteria? Durian sales would go through the roof.) Because bitches are often aloof emotionally, although not necessarily physically, they become the giant stuffed unicorn at the sideshow ring-toss game. Even when the action’s fixed, winning the prize becomes an obsession, and guys keep on playing, long past the point of reasonable expenditure.

COMMITMENT CHALLENGED

Certain males are drawn to bitches because romantic relationships with built-in self-destruct cycles secretly appeal to them. According to Dr. Patti Britton, Ph.D., MPH, ACSE, ABS, ACS, FAACS, and co-founder of SEX COACH U, “Some commitment phobic men really do not like to commit. We see it a lot with clients who are in courtship mode. Then some show up married after time has passed, and they’ve tried to fake it—faked being real, faked finding love, faked trying keeping lust alive—and discovering after all that, something is missing.”

Britton ascribes some of the reasons for this self-defeating behaviour to a lack of social skills, fear of authentic intimacy and lack of positive role models for intimacy in a man’s family of origin. But whatever the catalyst, hitching your wagon to a bitch guarantees you’ll be hitting the end of the trail sooner rather than later

TOO MUCH MEDIA

Is This You

In a world that glamorises the likes of the Kardashians and so-called “real” housewives to the status of sex symbols, it’s no wonder guys are confused. While a pro-porn clinician and feminist, Dr. Britton sees a disturbing tendency in some younger men to regard media and porn examples as “real relationships on display,” when in truth, they are not real relationships at all.

“Young men who are isolated and alone think that this is how real women behave, and that this is how real intimate relationships may be formed,” she explains, especially with regard to porn. “Without the social and developmental steps they need to meet girls, find out how girls relate, and discover real means for communication, watching porn as a replacement for real relating to the opposite sex can be damaging and lead to the formation of toxic inauthentic relationships … In porn, women who like sex are ‘hungry bitches’ who act horribly toward men. So, this may become a real expectation for immature men thinking that’s how they will get sex. Sad, but true.”

She adds, the brave new world of “cyber-everything” has only exacerbated the problem, citing that what may “feel” or “appear” to be real relationships—even friendships, such as your Facebook friends—are built on pseudo-intimacy. “Many men spend far too many hours alone watching media, being isolated, lacking social and sexual development skills,” she notes, “and as a result, form false expectations for relationships. When they attempt to find a ‘real woman,’ they look in the wrong places for the ‘bad girl,’ who turns out to be a disaster—nasty and toxic.” (Or Kardashian…

OEDIPUS WRECKS

It’s “Mommy” issues. Men (and women) who grow up in dysfunctional families are often doomed to recreate negative behaviours in an attempt to heal the deep-seated hurt that arises from neglect, indifference, or worst-case scenario, abuse. All children deserve to be loved, however, some sperm and egg donors are not capable of imparting that emotion—and yet, they reproduce. The result is often offspring who grow up looking for approval that they are never going to find. Our advice? Seek therapy, and do not procreate with a bitch, lest you consign your children to the same fate.

IT’S THE SEX, DUMMY

Like their AKC counterparts, some bitches just want to get laid, and when they’re in heat, emotional collateral damage is the last thing on their minds. If she can suck the whitewall off a tire, has a nymphomanical appetite, and the sexual stamina of a warren of Energizer Bunnies, your pal (or you) may be so come-addled, he doesn’t give a damn that his woman’s a bitch. The bad news: his balls may soon go the way of the dodo. The good news: at least they won’t be blue

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