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Monday, 18 January 2016

The Sexy Happy Hour

"Life today seems to travel at such a high speed and most of us are having to juggle several things at once, like work, family, finances, health and much more. Its understandable that through all of this our relationships with our spouses/partners are put on the back boiler and neglected. Your relationship should be nurtured, have a regular date night away from your usual surroundings. Set new goals, act out fantasies, lighten up with each other again, enjoy the company, it will pay dividends in the long run. Try the "naughty pause", you might like it". - Susan -

The Sexy Happy Hour

Married couples can benefit from a weekly scheduled "naughty pause."

In France, a different kind of happy hour is reportedly celebrated during the week. It’s called “le cinq à sept" and it’s also referred to as “the naughty pause.” It is a special time, between 5 and 7 at the end of the work day, that is devoted to romantic trysts and lovemaking that may or may not be illicit. Hotels, even nice respectable ones, offer special deals on day rentals. Questions are seldom asked about “who’s zooming who,” apparently. Not surprisingly, results from a Pew Research Study from 2013 indicated that France was the country that was least upset by marital infidelity -- less than half of the respondents there agreed that affairs were morally unacceptable. In the United States, however, about 84% of people believe adultery is morally wrong.

What does that say, though, about the American culture that is awash with sexualised imagery and innuendo designed to sell everything from chewing gum to “gentlemen’s clubs” to radio stations? It probably says that our country’s puritanical heritage has instilled an enduring polarity of voyeurism coupled with inhibition. Some people have suggested that it is that historical “Pilgrims’ Pride” that led our country to be so squeamish about the human body, nudity, and, of course, sexuality.

Sex & Shame

Shame and humiliation are too often the tools that parents might use to censure their children’s early curiosity and questions. Not giving children a safe place to ask the questions leads to a tacit condemnation of even the desire to ask the questions. The human body and sexuality become taboo topics and most of us know that if we can’t ask a grown-up, we will likely seek answers from a peer. Today, though, there are more visual aids available to kids to share with their friends than just a crumpled copy of Playboy magazine that an earlier generation might have used as a guide to anatomy. The internet is a minefield of images that can reflect and broadcast everything from the sanctity and sacredness of sexual union all the way to the most depraved and revolting extent of the human imagination.

So, in a country where we frown on infidelity, yet see our national heroes and media figures be outed for their role in child pornography or sexual assault, or read about religious fundamentalists sexually molesting young women, or any number of unexpected sexually-tinged crimes, it seems that our desire to keep our clothes on and our mouths shut on the topic of sex leads to uninhibited debauchery behind doors that are kept shut tight.

Money & Sex

In a study that explored the relationship between breadwinner status and infidelity (Munsch, 2015), or to put it more bluntly, money and sex, some interesting facts were revealed. Breadwinning males were more likely to be unfaithful than wives who were the primary breadwinners. Dependent spouses, especially husbands, were also more likely to engage in adultery. This reflects the relationship to power that money and sex may hold. For men who earn the lion’s share of a family’s income, it appears that this also gives license to greater sexual freedom. For breadwinning women, it was hypothesised that staying faithful would be one way to mitigate what might be an already strained relationship due to the unexpectedly unbalanced gender/income disparity. Dependent spouses may be using extramarital sex as a way to express a sense of power that lower income may preclude in the relationship in other ways.

Conflict & Sex

Results from a study of women who strayed (Jeanfreau, Jurich, & Mong, 2014) indicated that there were three basic themes expressed as reasons for adultery:

Need for more attention than being received from their spouses

Lack of “quality time” spent with their spouses

Conflicts that could not be resolved

Spouses need time, attention, and the willingness for a partner to work through conflict. What may be especially frustrating for women reading this is that another study showed that one of the best ways to maintain marital satisfaction involved wives being able to “down regulate” their negative experience and behaviours. Sounds like women, a group that research has shown to be more amenable to exploring and processing emotions, need to “get a grip” in order to ensure that both partners feel better about the relationship. Perhaps “getting a grip” would help solve the conflict aspect of the infidelity equation. Seems like men are getting off easy?

Sex: Getting your Weekly Dose

Reliably weekly sex has been found to be “enough” for most people to feel is adequate for a satisfying sexual relationship. In fact, it was found that weekly sex was better than monthly sex for both partners to feel positive . about their marital relationship. In fact, the degree of positive difference found between weekly and monthly sex was actually greater than the influence of income size in happiness! Seems like there’s not much difference within a relationship if the couple brings in $15-25K or $50-$75K a year.

Making Time for the Naughty Pause -- AKA Weekly Sex

Even if Americans seem to be more prudish, overall, and more likely to believe that intimacy belongs behind closed doors while “sex-for-sales” belongs on billboards, it might be a worthwhile investment of time and resources for couples to integrate that “naughty pause” into their weekly calendar. The excitement might be less for some than hooking up with a stranger or an illicit partner, but the long-term rewards of sexual connection between spouses on a regular basis include marital satisfaction and relationship longevity. It doesn’t get any better than that.

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Monday, 28 December 2015

14 Things Every Woman Has Thought During Sex

"Hands up ladies who can relate to this?

For women sex is different than it is for men, as soon as the clothes come off their brains go into overdrive. So at this point the job of the male is to read her mind and bring her to the mind blowing climax she deserves. Good Luck with that one'" - Susan

14 Things Every Woman Has Thought During Sex

You know your mind has gone there, too.

Even during an intensely passionate hookup, it's normal for your mind to occasionally wander. Let us know how many of these random thoughts you can check off:

"Huh, well that is not what I expected." All those myths about being able to decipher penis size by a guy's feet or hands? All lies. Raise your hand if you've ever been completely caught off guard by what a man whipped out. Yeah, who hasn't?

"I cannot believe I spent $89 on this lingerie and he didn't even glance at it before taking it off." The store should offer refunds for inattentive boyfriends. That's it—it's all cotton all the way from here on out. Ugh, that's a lie…we love pretty lingerie.

"Wait, he wants me to put the condom on?" Is there even a way to do that sexily? This feels like a trap. Ninth grade health class, don't fail me now.

"Wow, he really knows what he's doing—I wonder who taught him that?" Hey, you can't help but get a little curious when a guy is really amazing with his hands, mouth, or hips. They must have had an ex-girlfriend somewhere along the line who was awesome at giving constructive criticism. We should find her and buy her a drink.

"Is this dude seriously not going to return the favour?" Sure, pleasing your partner is incredibly hot, but it's usually not an entirely selfless move. You know the saying, "It's better to give than to receive?" Well they weren't talking about blowjobs.

"I bet Jon Hamm would be crazy-hot in bed." Hey, a fantasy is a fantasy! As long as you don't accidentally blurt this one out, we'd say there's no harm done.

"Nope, that's not my clitoris…Yeah, that's not it either." Come on guys, it's not like finding Bigfoot. Sure, it's tiny, but it stays in one place—pretty much the same place on every woman. I feel like you're making this harder than it needs to be.

"So…remind me again what to do with his balls?" Experts and real men agree that his boys are craving some attention. But they're so…confusing. Maybe it's all those years of being told not to play with fragile things as children.

"Wait—was that my phone?" Text or email? Or was it an alert? Did I forget to send out that report today?! WHY AM I THINKING ABOUT THIS RIGHT NOW?

"OK, that's definitely a move he saw in porn." We're all about experimenting and trying new positions, but there are certain requests or contortions that are so obviously coming from a clip he watched earlier.

"No, no, no don't finish yet!" It's just a cruel joke that men are generally able to orgasm more quickly than women. Even with a warm-up, we may not hit the finish line before they do. And why is it always right when you're getting into an omg-this-feels-amazing groove that the guy is right there. Oh well, there's always round two.

"Well, actually now this is taking a while and I have stuff to do." There's also the flip side to timing issues, when you're totally satisfied and your partner is the one holding up the show. We know we should be patient—just like we'd want them to be—but come on, we told you not to have that fourth beer.

*Radio Silence* We may be thinking about a whole lot during the act, but a body-tingling orgasm usually puts a lid on that pretty quickly. Seriously, one study found that the part of your brain involved in fear and anxiety just shuts down when you climax. Hey, we don't need to know exactly what's going on up there—we just know it felt amazeballs.

"How are you asleep already?!" Is the human penis somehow involved in sleep regulation? How is this even possible? I'm not even mad—I'm impressed.

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Monday, 21 December 2015

6 Common Sex Injuries—And How to Deal

"Perhaps sex should come with a Health & Safety Warning!." - Susan

6 Common Sex Injuries—And How to Deal

For when love really does hurt...you know, literally.

We can all agree that sex is pretty much one of the greatest things known to mankind. However, while it's mostly amazing, there are definitely occasional issues involved. And we're not just talking about an awkward slip-up—injuries can and do occur. We checked in with some top gynaecologists to find out which sex-related injuries are the most common—and how to deal with them should they happen to you. (Step one: Do not panic.)

Vaginal Tearing

This is perhaps the most common sex injury around. You know it's happened when you're bleeding down there after the deed, or it simply really, really hurts.

The fix: The reason tearing happens is that you're too dry down there, meaning the fix is pretty simple: Be sure you're lubricated enough before he enters you. "This can mean going slower during sex, or simply using lubricant," says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., research scientist at Indiana University and author of Sex Made Easy. If you do all of this and you still experience tearing on the regular, see your gyno, who can prescribe certain antibiotics. If it's just a one time thing, wait it out. "Most vaginal tears are small and heal on their own," says Herbenick. "But if a cut is bigger or keeps bleeding, call a healthcare provider."

Something Gets Stuck…Up There

Yep. We're about to get graphic. The two most common "foreign objects" gynos encounter are forgotten tampons (hey, it happens), and lost condoms. And yes, gynos actually refer to them as "foreign objects." Now you know.

The fix: Start by taking a deep breath and not freaking out; these things happen and you can totally get the thing out. "The best course of action is to wait 10 or 15 minutes after you've had sex," says Herbenick. That's the time it takes for your vagina to get back to its normal, unaroused size—and it's a lot easier to reach up there in its normal state than it is when it's all engorged from sex. Then, simply take a deep breath, relax, and insert two fingers to try to get it out. If you can't, call your doctor ASAP and they can fish it out for you.

Carpet Burn

Go you for being adventurous and not just sticking to the mattress! Seriously, round of applause. However, this hot move can cause painful carpet burns due to friction (#BedroomBattleWounds).

The fix: Wash the infected area with cool water and antibacterial soap, advises Jennifer Wider, M.D., women's health specialist. If the skin is actually broken—as in, there is a physical cut as opposed to just giant redness—then clean it with antiseptic and apply antibacterial cream before putting a bandage on top. Of course, the best advice is to go on pre-emptive strike and put a soft throw down if you're having sex on a rough surface. Just be sure it's one of your backup blankets, as things could get a little, well, you know.

Back Injury

We're not ones to knock a good sex move, like reverse cowgirl or whatever else. But sadly, those "she did what?!" skills can also wreak havoc on your back.

The fix: Applaud yourself for being such a bedroom baller. Done? OK, now time for damage control. "Put an ice pack on your lower back to relieve inflammation. Then, once the inflammation subsides, use a heating pad to soothe your muscles," Wider advises. Finally, pop an ibuprofen and rest for a couple hours.

Yeast Infection

Most women who get yeast infections from sex get them either from receiving oral sex, or from having sex with a guy who has some saliva on his penis (i.e. after you've gone down on him), says Herbenick.

The fix: "Start by making sure that his penis is clean when he enters you," says Herbenick. If this means having him go to the bathroom after foreplay, then so be it. If you get yeast infections more than four times a year, you may simply be more prone to getting them in general—so talk to your gyno about that, and she can decide the best course of action.

Urinary Tract Infection

Anyone who's ever gotten one of these knows they're a real pain. Ugh. And sadly, you can get them from having lots of sex.

The fix: The best thing to do is to make sure you're lubricated enough at all times, whether that's by actually using lube, or just being sure that your partner doesn't enter you too early or go too rough. That helps prevent tears or irritation, which make UTIs more likely. Another key: Pee before and after sex. This also helps prevent UTI-causing bacteria from sticking around in your body. And finally, if you know you're prone to getting UTIs, take cranberry extract regularly; it keeps bacteria from sticking to the walls of your bladder.

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Sunday, 20 December 2015

The Best Sex Positions for Every Penis Size

"Interesting! and hopefully helpful". - Susan

The Best Sex Positions for Every Penis Size

Sex positions for every size.

When it comes to sex, bigger is NOT always better. At least, not for every position or manoeuvre. The good news is that you can experience maximum pleasure with the right person, regardless of what he's working with. Here, see four different sex positions, tailored to perfection for four different types of members. Whether he's giant or below average (or curves dramatically to the right!), you'll definitely find a way to reach maximum velocity with these pointers.

An Average Fellow: Most positions are fair game-so experiment! Sex expert Emily Morse of SexWithEmily.com suggests the Crouching Dragon: Wrap your arms around his shoulders and your legs around his midsection before having him crouch down in a squat so that his body makes a human chair for you. Press your body closely up against his as you grind.

Mr. Big: Spend 10 to 15 minutes in foreplay to help the vagina expand, and use lube. Choose you-on-top moves to control how deep he goes. Lean over his body with your hands on either side of his head on the floor or a mattress, "as if you're about to do a pushup," says Morse. "It also helps for him to bend his knees so you can lean back for support."

Smaller Than Six Inches: Go rear-entry, says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., a sex researcher at Indiana University. This offers you deeper penetration. Rest your head and shoulders on a pillow, lift your butt up, then squeeze your thighs. The tighter your legs, the snugger the fit. (Avoid lube: With a smaller guy, friction is your friend.)

Bendy Boy: If he has a slight sideways shape, "have him stand next to the mattress while you lie on it," says Morse. "Alternate angling yourself to one side, then the other, almost curled in a ball. He can use your shoulders for support while he thrusts and you find which of the positions feels best, depending on which direction his penis bends."

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Wednesday, 16 December 2015

13 WAYS TO PROTECT YOUR PENIS

"This one is for all you guys out there, useful tips on how to keep your Family Jewels in
tip top condition." - Susan

13 WAYS TO PROTECT YOUR PENIS

40% of men claim to have problems in the bedroom. Here’s how to end yours

New research has revealed that in 2012 alone the NHS spent a staggering £88million on erectile dysfunction drugs like Viagra. Dodge the little blue pill with these tips.

Crack on

Start your day with an egg to end it on a high. Eggs’ B vits are essential for sex drive and erectile strength but stress can deplete your levels, says Dr Paul Lachance. Scramble before you hit the office.

Just soy no

Soy milk isn’t better than cow juice, despite what the hipsters say. A Harvard study found the sperm counts of men using soy were 41m/ml lower than normal. That’s a lot of little you's to lose over your cereal.

A glass act

Throw out your Tupperware. A Reproductive Toxicology study found exposure to BPA in plastic can cut your sperm concentration by 23%. Nuke lunches in glassware. And limit Chinese takeaways too.

Lift on empty

Take a pitstop before you hit the squat rack. Peeing before you push stops urine being forced into your testicles, which the Uro Centre of New York says causes epididymitis with painful swelling. Not the kind of growth you were after.

Dynamic duo

While 99.9% of penis-related pills are a con, a Fertility and Sterility study found the testicular tag team of zinc (£5.50 tesco.com) and folate (£8hollandandbarrett.com) improves your percentage of healthy sperm – no scam.

Choose blue

Attack the cheese board after dinner. Research in the Journal of Applied Physiology says the fats in roquefort can boost your testosterone levels and sex drive.

Trade in type 2

Diabetes can leave you numb between the legs: Diabetes Voice says up to 58% of male sufferers are impotent. Keep your sugar levels in check by swapping starchy carbs for broccoli and spinach.

Booze snooze

Think twice when offered another pint down the pub. One study found 10 beers in one night can lower T-levels by 23% and leave you limp under the sheets long after the hangover clears.

Wi-Fry zone

Late night laptop use can kill more than your sleep cycle. Human Reproduction found it raises scrotal temperatures by 2.5°C, which can zap your fertility. Log off at work; there are better things to do in bed.

Deep clean

Shower time is serious for uncircumcised men. The American Cancer Society says smegma (sorry, official terminology) under the foreskin increases your risk of penile cancer. Scrub up.

Go hand solo

Your dates with Palmela Handerson work your pelvic floor muscles for even harder erections. It’s good for her, which is good for you. It’s also a great excuse if you forget to clear your browsing history.

The big C TLC

Supermarket shelves are your pharmacy when it comes to preventing testicular cancer. The beta-carotene in carrots has incredible anticancer effects. Its efficacy in cake form is yet unconfirmed.

Kick the habit

Forget the gruesome adverts, this fact is sure to scare you off cigarettes. Researchers at Boston Uni found blood vessel damage makes smokers’ erections significantly shorter – no smoke and mirrors.

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Tuesday, 1 December 2015

When Should You Tell Someone You Have A Sexually Transmitted Infection?

"Your STD doesn't have to be the end of your dating life, but you have to be responsible, honest and open with a partner with whom you want to share sexual intimacy. I wouldn't advise bringing up the subject on the first date, but certainly before you find yourself in the throws of intimacy". - Susan

When Should You Tell Someone You Have A Sexually Transmitted Infection?

All new couples should visit a sexual health clinic for a full check-up before they start to engage in sex without condom use.

Last week STI dating site PositiveSingles was fined $16.5m (£10.4m) after losing a privacy case. The lawsuit alleged a number of users were misled about their privacy rights on the site, which advertised itself as a confidential service connecting single adults with sexually transmitted infections.

The topic of STIs is always an emotive and sensitive one. When is the right time to tell someone you have a sexually transmitted infection? “Yes I would love to go for a drink…oh! By the way, I have herpes.”

There were 446,253 sexually transmitted infections (STIs) diagnosed in England in 2013, according to Public Health England data.

Chlamydia (which is easily treated with antibiotics) was the most common STI in 2013, making up 47% of all diagnoses. Gonorrhoea diagnoses saw a large rise, up 15% from 2012 to 2013. Though normally treated with a single antibiotic injection and a single antibiotic tablet, a new strain of gonorrhea that is resistant to multiple antibiotics has been identified in Australia, according to a new study.

Many people suffer from cold sores or Whitlows on the fingers which are caused by the same virus which cause genital herpes. Apart from the discomfort and embarrassment at the time, they do not feel they are socially tainted for life as many do with genital herpes.

The herpes virus in the mouth and finger can be transferred to the genital area of another person during oral sex and digital stimulation. Genital herpes can be transferred by someone who may not know they have the herpes virus. It has been found that women who are self-treating thrush have often misdiagnosed the condition they have. A person can have had symptoms of herpes many years ago, never have sought help and never had a recurrence, therefore never having being diagnosed and may have forgotten the incidence completely - but can still transfer the virus.

It is thought that women who have had sex have a 50-75 per cent chance of having HPV, meaning a large proportion of the population have the virus. There are over 120 different HPV viruses and most of these causes no problems to health. These viruses can lie dormant for years and the person may never be aware they have them but for whatever reason the virus may become active and cause changes within the cell. Some cause warts, verrucae and others are linked to cancer of the mouth, cervix and anus. However the greatest risk of developing cancer of the mouth is smoking and this risk increases with high alcohol intake.

The HPV responsible for warts is easily diagnosed (if a person has visible warts they have the virus), however, subclinical warts mean that the virus is present but the wart is not visible to the naked eye. HPV related to cancer of the cervix cannot be seen and women are encouraged to have cervical sampling as requested to prevent negative out comes of the HPV . HPV has also been linked to anal cancer and anyone having anal sex should be aware of an increased risk.

The incident of HIV is increasing in the heterosexual population. The human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) is relatively delicate and cannot live for any length of time outside the body. The virus can be transferred during sex but is also transferred in blood. The medical screening of all blood products makes use safe within a hospital setting.

The ease of sexually transmitted infection transfer is difficult to research due to the repertoire of sex. We tend to replicate our sexual behaviour within our relationship but behaviour is different from couple to couple. Some sex acts appears to carry more risk than others in transference of sexually transmitted infection. However no sex is completely safe if one of the partners has a virus.

Dating sites that are set up for people who have been diagnosed with a sexually transmitted infection may reduce the individual’s burden of having to give this information to a person at the beginning of a new relationship, however, this makes the assumption that everyone who has a viral infection is aware of it - which is not necessarily the case. Also there is the assumption that all infections are disclosed which, again, may not be the case.

Dating sites that hold sexual information need to be very aware of confidentiality and the potential harm that could be caused if this information were to be given to others. Within a hospital setting confidentiality is so valued, and of such importance, that the sexual health clinics often have a completely different computer system so no one else within the hospital can access patient information.

On the legal side of things, in this country there is no legal requirement for a person who is diagnosed with HIV to tell their partner, nor is there a legal requirement for any sexual health staff to have to inform them. But people can be prosecuted for HIV transmission under the Offences Against the Person Act 1861 (OAPA 1861), for grievous bodily harm. There are two possible offences – reckless transmission (under section 20) and intentional transmission (under section 18). You must have actually transmitted HIV to be successfully prosecuted.

Staff spend a lot of time with patients who are newly diagnosed with HIV discussing the issues and give support and information for partner notification which is encouraged. Consensual contact tracing is the norm within clinics. Giving non-consensual information about diagnosis to others is seen to fatally undermine what is a confidential service as there is no control over information given and this information could be maliciously used by others.

In 2010, German singer Nadja Benaissa was found guilty of grievous bodily harm and attempted bodily harm, and was given a a two-year suspended sentence after admitting failing to tell ex-lovers she had HIV. Protection of children is highlighted in the guidance which was one of the reasons Nadja Benaissa gave for not divulged her HIV status, in order to protect her child.

It is a difficult ethical dilemma for staff working in sexual health as patient confidentiality is a fundamental requirement of the service. The issue is further complicated where the doctor has clinical responsibility both for the patient and the identified partner, as there is probably a legal responsibility on the doctor to inform the partner without the patient’s consent if the patient consistently refuses to do so, or gives consent for the doctor to do so. However, if patients thought others would be told of their diagnosis, it may stop them being tested, or not give a correct sexual history, which could put others at risk.

When it comes to dating sites, people might feel that this may be a future relationship in the making, and so to care for and disclose to another person is a high priority. However a drunken or casual sexual encounter may not aspire to these ideals. This sex may be just as risky in relation to infection transfer and all sex in whatever context should be safe.

Condom use is a must in any new relationship to protect not only ourselves but others too. All new couples, no matter how they meet, should visit a sexual health clinic for a full check-up before they start to engage in sex without condom use. If this became custom and practice, embarrassment may be reduced and discussion could take place with a professional to give clear information about the impact on the future sexual health for both partners.

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Saturday, 21 November 2015

The Sex Chair That Turned Our Love Life Into An ORGASM PARTY

"A good looking piece of furniture with hidden talents. I must buy one!" - Susan

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The Sex Chair That Turned Our Love Life Into An ORGASM PARTY

Hands down, one of the best things I've ever purchased.

My husband and I have been married for five years (together for eight), and we have two kids under the age of three. As you can probably imagine, our sex life has had its ebbs and flows. I also suffer from chronic back and neck pain as well as carpal tunnel, which not only causes a lot of pain, but also makes me feel like a grandma rather than a youthful sexy woman.

Despite all these obstacles, we both wanted to do something to re-ignite the fire and bring regular sex back into our lives.

We talked about scheduling sex or even trying one of those sex regimes where you just have sex every night, whether you're in the mood or not for 30 days until it becomes routine. But none of those options felt very romantic, and even after many years of marriage and two kids I still need a little romance to enjoy sex.

We continued to just have sporadic sex when both of our schedules lined up and we weren't two exhausted (or too achy), but it became more and more infrequent. My husband was always trying to initiate, which, while flattering, eventually made me feel guilty for not being as eager as he was.

So, I started doing research to find a solution and the answer I found really surprised me: A sex chair.

OK, it's not actually called a sex chair — it's called The Tantra Chair — and it's amazing. It's designed to contour the lines of the human body and allow you to have sex in a ton of different positions with the support of the chair. It's also classy looking, so it doesn't feel like a scene from 50 Shades of Grey in our bedroom.

The sex positions recommended by the company are inspired by Kamasutra and demonstrated in some pretty steamy videos on its website.

There are knock off versions out there that are a little cheaper, but they definitely aren't as classy and they don't have the very important feature of being anti-stain and anti-microbial (pretty key in a chair that's specifically for sex).

The Tantra Chair

We've been using the chair for about a month now and here's a few things we've learned:

1. We've discovered a few of our own favourite positions.

We like to start and end with one of the more basic ones (like both sitting upright facing each other, with one leg on each side of the chair), and then experiment with some more adventurous positions in the middle. We aren't quite up to Cirque du Soleil-level like the couple in the videos, but I have faith we'll get there.

2. The added leverage makes sex ten times better.

The best part, for me, is that the chair provides so much support that my back and neck never hurt, and the added leverage makes sex feels incredible. No more trying to grab the headboard and constantly slipping down the bed. And let's just say the level of grinding has been taken to a whole new level — and I'm not complaining.

3. I feel infinitely sexier.

The other thing I love about the Tantra Chair is that I feel so much sexier on it. The lines of the chair encourage you to lean back and arch your back, which flattens out my post-baby pooch and makes my boobs extremely perky. We also happen to have a mirror really close to the chair and I can't help but watch as we make love.

Overall, I'm so thankful that the answer to our dry spell was solved with a piece of furniture, which is a much better use of money than years of therapy and frustration. If you're feeling a lull in your love life or you don't feel sexy in the bedroom, I highly recommend this chair.

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