Friday, 31 October 2014
Thursday, 30 October 2014
Researchers Study Ways to Improve Sex for Women with Low Back Pain
In this study, the researchers recruited 10 couples and used a combination of infrared and electromagnetic motion capture systems to analyze how the spine moved during sexual intercourse. The team focused on five popular sex positions. "Traditionally, spooning was recommended by physicians to all individuals with back pain because it was thought to reduce nerve tension and load on the tissues," said lead investigator of the study, Natalie Sidorkewicz, a Ph.D. candidate at Waterloo. "But when we examined spine motion and muscle activity, we found that spooning can actually be one of the worst positions for certain types of back pain."
Spooning and Doggy Style
The team found that , who were extension-intolerant, which meant that their back pain was triggered by arching or lying on their stomachs, should engage in the missionary as opposed to spooning position. For women who were flexion-intolerant, which meant that their pain was worsened if they sat for too long or if they tried to touch their toes, they could benefit from spooning or doggy-style sex. In these positions, however, women should support themselves with their hands and not their elbows.
"What we know now is that sex positions that are suitable for one type of back pain are not appropriate for another kind of pain," said Sidorkewicz according to the university's news release. "These guidelines have the potential to improve quality of life-and love life-for many couples.
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Wednesday, 29 October 2014
1. Make Any Day Special
Kristina Wright, author of Bedded Bliss: A Couple’s Guide to Lust Ever After, points out that you don’t have to wait for anniversaries or birthdays to have so-called special sex. Any day can be special, including the anniversary of the first time you made out, the day you've finally potty trained your youngest child, or just because it’s Tuesday. "Whatever it takes, whenever you can manage it, celebrate this crazy, messy, busy life you’ve created together
It’s tempting to just bunker down and stay in when the weather starts to get chilly, but the problem is that your home has so many things that distract you from alone time: dishes, kids, computers, and even the television. Find a way to physically remove yourself from the things that keep you from making time for each other. Try checking into a nearby hotel for a night or even a local Airbnb spot.
Napping baby? Head to the bathroom and get clean (or dirty) together, Wright suggests. It doesn't have to end in sex — all that matters is the time spent alone together, and the re-connection from touch. As a bonus, you can save time and water!
Sometimes it’s hard to think of ways to reignite the spark when your mind is full of tasks and to-do lists from your busy day. After Nine Tonight, a site run by a husband-and-wife team who've dealt with their own issues around a stalled sex life, offers sex tips that could give you some ideas.
Yes, it’s nice to have an entire evening together, but sometimes there just isn't time for an extended romantic rendezvous. Sex doesn't have to be an all-or-nothing event. A quickie can remove the pressure from those, “Oh god, it’s been XX days since we've done it” thoughts in your head, and remind you how much you enjoy spending time together.
No, it’s not very romantic to literally make an appointment to get naked with your partner, but is it less romantic than not having the time at all? “No matter how busy you are at work or what sort of responsibilities are distracting you at home, you know you'll have one-on-one time with your love,” says Lori Bizzoco, founder of Cupid’s Pulse. "Turn off your phones, shut the door, and focus on each other."
Don’t wait until you’re about to have sex to get romantic, advises Heidi Shimberg, co-author of the upcoming book CoupleCEO. "Send romantic and titillating texts or emails randomly throughout the day and week,” Shimberg suggests. "This will make each partner excited and eager for the time to be intimate; they will be extremely less likely to skip being intimate.”
It’s hard to get revved up for sex when you’re feeling disconnected from your partner. Don’t forget to work on your intimacy as well, in big and little ways. Send a quick note during the day, or text just to say you’re thinking of your spouse. Make a point of touching more often. Talk about how you’re feeling and where you’re struggling. Fostering those connections will make it easier to make sex a priority, and remind you why you’re with this person in the first place.
Are there things you've always wanted to do in bed, or want to do again? Work on your sexual bucket list together, Wright says, and go to it when you find yourself with some time to spend on it.
Not every surface in your house has to be spotless. Not every meal has to be made from scratch. If hiring a bi-weekly cleaner and ordering takeout on Fridays means you have more time for each other, so be it. Sometimes you have to spend money to make whoopee.
Do you have time to watch "Scandal?" Then you have time to get busy! Set the DVR and get to it. We think Olivia Pope would approve.
Tuesday, 28 October 2014
Monday, 27 October 2014
How to Date Your Husband: 5 Tips to Keep You BOTH HappyAfter the kids come along, it’s pretty easy for couples to put working on their marriage off to the side. In fact, I’m firmly convinced that this has a lot to do with today’s divorce rate: too many couples allow their marriages to slide while they focus all of their time and energy on raising their children. While the kids are definitely important, raising them shouldn’t come at the expense of your primary relationship. And yes, I went there. Your marriage, not your children, should be your primary relationship in life. After all, parenting is about preparing our kids to eventually spread their wings and fly off to lives of their own, while our marriages are supposed to be forever.
Sunday, 26 October 2014
Why men love us grumpy women (and heaven help them if they dare to argue!)
Which is why a new survey suggesting that we spend ten days a year being in a bait might not have been the best way to start the week.
Women are not born grumpy, you know. We just get that way over time. And the older we get, the grumpier we grow. It’s just Nature’s way.
Only ten days a year? That’s nothing: I can fit that much grumpiness into a week if I really put my mind to it.
The main problem is that almost everything to do with being a woman is either quite annoying, really annoying, or just downright maddening.
In no particular order: bras, tights, pregnancy, childbirth, waxing, breastfeeding, babies, that fiddly plastic bit on the top of the milk, squabbling children, duvet covers, husbands, bin collection timings, the PTA, parallel parking and mothers-in-law.
Life is one constant, low-level source of irritation.
All of which must make being a man quite tricky. And occasionally scary.
Which is why the true test of a man’s mettle is how he deals with his partner’s moods.
Only the purest of hearts can endure the never-ending nag about The Correct Loading Of The Dishwasher.
And Sir Lancelot himself would have surrendered, weeping, in the face of the relentless rant of Is It Too Much To Ask That You Look After The Kids For Half A Day Without Destroying The House?
For all that, though, any man with a spine won’t mind all that much.
Deep down, he knows that his partner’s grumpiness is really a sign of affection.
Besides, who wants to be married to a boringly perfect cheerleader type? All that simpering smiling and vapid enthusiasm for everyone and everything.
It may be attractive to begin with, but over time it can really start to grate.
In fact, I’m pretty sure that the last thing my husband wants when he gets home from work is an irritatingly perky wife, someone who’s going to try to engage him in polite conversation about his day, help him with his slippers and hand him a freshly made gin and tonic.
|One thing is almost guaranteed to make a woman grumpy, and that’s telling her that she’s being grumpy|
Or at least if he does, he’s not bloody getting one.
No, he wants someone who will silently indicate supper and then sit scowling at the television, occasionally emitting a grunt to indicate general disapproval at the parlous state of the world, while he gets on with his paperwork.
As for me, grumpy is so much more compelling than cheery. Sexy, even.
Just look at Hugh Laurie in the TV medical drama House. Or Mr Darcy in Pride And Prejudice, the original Mr Grump (‘she is tolerable, but not handsome enough to tempt me’).
Ladies-wise, I for one am thoroughly enjoying Scary Spice’s renaissance in this year’s series of The X Factor. So much more entertaining than Cheryl’s saccharine ‘good effort, pet’.
And as for Theresa May, well, all hail the High Priestess of Grump, second only to the Queen herself in her ability to evoke thunder with a mere twitch of her nostrils.
That’s my theory, at least. And if you don’t like it, you can jolly well lump it.
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