Friday 31 October 2014

Would You Enter Orgasms School?

The School of Orgasms

Would you take a masturbation class? A new movement called OMing (or Orgasmic Meditation) is taking things to a new level...

Orgasms are one of the best feelings in the world. Fact. But what if they could be even better?! Say what! More and more women are heading to orgasmic meditation classes to get their rocks off on a whole new level – this is one #sextrend we really like.

Labelled OMing, these classes are made specifically for women, but not shy ones because you will be getting touched up by your BF or a stranger (!) in the class. But for a better climax, would you consider going?

OMing, which began all the way back in the 1960s, is about using meditation and prolonged masturbation to get harder, stronger, longer “Os”. So these classes are designed to teach women how to do this and involves stimulating the clitoris for a whole 15 minutes! Tens of thousands of women have done these classes in the US and their popularity is on the rise.

The founder Nicole Daedone, whose San Francisco-based company One Taste runs workshops, says OMing is about enjoying the now. She told UK Metro, “Orgasmic meditation (OM) is a practice done between two people that has no goal, except to feel what is happening in the moment.”

“OM is not about climax (yes, orgasm and climax are different). It’s about expanding the most pleasurable part of the orgasm,” she added.

One US Cosmo journo who took the class for a, ahem, spin said, “Our orgasm trainer, Ken, a normal-looking 30-something, explained the technique, then proceeded to demonstrate on our other trainer, Rachel (Ken's girlfriend).

“On a bunch of pillows that became a sort of orgasm nest, she—yes—got bottomless, then Ken set a timer and, palm facing down, used his left pointer finger to massage her infamous upper-left quadrant."

Sexpert Nikki Goldstein isn’t so sure the classes are right for all women though, “Everyone is different and by saying, 'You must spend 15 minutes in that one spot', it can be negative because putting deadlines of coming can just add a lot of pressure. And not everyone can orgasm through manual masturbation so these classes might make these women feel inferior.” Not to mention the fact that it’s all public – eek.

OMing teaches you that the “upper left quadrant” is the most pleasurable spot, but many sexperts disagree, claiming that the whole clitoris is equally sensitive. Sexologist Yvonne K. Fulbright told Cosmo she'd never heard of the upper-left quadrant of the clitoris being a special spot, but the idea that spending 15 minutes to get a woman turned on could make her orgasm stronger wasn't BS.
“I think there are different sweet spots that are more sensitive for people [on the clitoris] but it varies for everyone,” adds Goldstein.

While the classes aren’t available here yet, Aussie chicks can still turn to sex coaching with qualified therapists to get private lessons on technique and Tantra workshops at the Australian School of Tantra to learn how to maximise their O.

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Thursday 30 October 2014

Sex for Women with Low Back Pain

Researchers Study Ways to Improve Sex for Women with Low Back Pain

Low back pain can negatively affect men and women's sex lives. In a new study, a team of researchers from the University of Waterloo examined spinal movements during sex in order to find the positions that are the most ideal for women suffering from different kinds of low back pain.

In this study, the researchers recruited 10 couples and used a combination of infrared and electromagnetic motion capture systems to analyze how the spine moved during sexual intercourse. The team focused on five popular sex positions. "Traditionally, spooning was recommended by physicians to all individuals with back pain because it was thought to reduce nerve tension and load on the tissues," said lead investigator of the study, Natalie Sidorkewicz, a Ph.D. candidate at Waterloo. "But when we examined spine motion and muscle activity, we found that spooning can actually be one of the worst positions for certain types of back pain."

Spooning and Doggy Style

Couple, bed

The team found that women, who were extension-intolerant, which meant that their back pain was triggered by arching or lying on their stomachs, should engage in the missionary as opposed to spooning position. For women who were flexion-intolerant, which meant that their pain was worsened if they sat for too long or if they tried to touch their toes, they could benefit from spooning or doggy-style sex. In these positions, however, women should support themselves with their hands and not their elbows.

"What we know now is that sex positions that are suitable for one type of back pain are not appropriate for another kind of pain," said Sidorkewicz according to the university's news release. "These guidelines have the potential to improve quality of life-and love life-for many couples.

The study was published in the European Spine Journal. The team published a similar study last month that examined sexual positions for men with low back pain.

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Wednesday 29 October 2014

Sex Tips: 11 Ways Busy People Can Have More Sex

Sex Tips: 11 Ways Busy People Can Have More Sex

In theory, the colder weather is the perfect excuse to snuggle with your sweetie under a blanket, but if you can’t imagine when you’d have the time for all that unproductive cuddling, you’re not alone.
"The usual advice works — date night, making time for sex, etc.,” says erotica author Kate Allure. “But whenever our lives get busy, especially around the holidays, we tend to drop those things that seem expendable.”
One-third of Canadians are overwhelmed about their work often or very often, according to research from the University of Toronto. Another 2012 Ipsos Reid poll found a fifth of Canadians were too busy preparing and organizing for the holidays to actually enjoy the time with family and friends. If we’re all feeling that busy and stressed, it’s no wonder sex can fall to the bottom of the priority list.
The solution? Find a way to make sure sex doesn't feel like an impossible task. These 11 tips will help you find time to get frisky this fall/winter, no matter how busy you are.

1. Make Any Day Special

Kristina Wright, author of Bedded Bliss: A Couple’s Guide to Lust Ever After, points out that you don’t have to wait for anniversaries or birthdays to have so-called special sex. Any day can be special, including the anniversary of the first time you made out, the day you've finally potty trained your youngest child, or just because it’s Tuesday. "Whatever it takes, whenever you can manage it, celebrate this crazy, messy, busy life you’ve created together

2. Get Out Of The House

It’s tempting to just bunker down and stay in when the weather starts to get chilly, but the problem is that your home has so many things that distract you from alone time: dishes, kids, computers, and even the television. Find a way to physically remove yourself from the things that keep you from making time for each other. Try checking into a nearby hotel for a night or even a local Airbnb spot.

3. Shower Together

Napping baby? Head to the bathroom and get clean (or dirty) together, Wright suggests. It doesn't have to end in sex — all that matters is the time spent alone together, and the re-connection from touch. As a bonus, you can save time and water!

4. Bring In An Expert

Sometimes it’s hard to think of ways to reignite the spark when your mind is full of tasks and to-do lists from your busy day. After Nine Tonight, a site run by a husband-and-wife team who've dealt with their own issues around a stalled sex life, offers sex tips that could give you some ideas.

5. Don't Dismiss The Quickie

Yes, it’s nice to have an entire evening together, but sometimes there just isn't time for an extended romantic rendezvous. Sex doesn't have to be an all-or-nothing event. A quickie can remove the pressure from those, “Oh god, it’s been XX days since we've done it” thoughts in your head, and remind you how much you enjoy spending time together.

6. Schedule Sex

No, it’s not very romantic to literally make an appointment to get naked with your partner, but is it less romantic than not having the time at all? “No matter how busy you are at work or what sort of responsibilities are distracting you at home, you know you'll have one-on-one time with your love,” says Lori Bizzoco, founder of Cupid’s Pulse. "Turn off your phones, shut the door, and focus on each other."

7. Constantly Kindle The Flame

Don’t wait until you’re about to have sex to get romantic, advises Heidi Shimberg, co-author of the upcoming book CoupleCEO. "Send romantic and titillating texts or emails randomly throughout the day and week,” Shimberg suggests. "This will make each partner excited and eager for the time to be intimate; they will be extremely less likely to skip being intimate.”

8. But Don't Forget Intimacy

It’s hard to get revved up for sex when you’re feeling disconnected from your partner. Don’t forget to work on your intimacy as well, in big and little ways. Send a quick note during the day, or text just to say you’re thinking of your spouse. Make a point of touching more often. Talk about how you’re feeling and where you’re struggling. Fostering those connections will make it easier to make sex a priority, and remind you why you’re with this person in the first place.

9. Make A Sexual Bucket List

Are there things you've always wanted to do in bed, or want to do again? Work on your sexual bucket list together, Wright says, and go to it when you find yourself with some time to spend on it.

10. Simplify

Not every surface in your house has to be spotless. Not every meal has to be made from scratch. If hiring a bi-weekly cleaner and ordering takeout on Fridays means you have more time for each other, so be it. Sometimes you have to spend money to make whoopee.

11. Turn Off The Big Black Box

Do you have time to watch "Scandal?" Then you have time to get busy! Set the DVR and get to it. We think Olivia Pope would approve.

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Tuesday 28 October 2014

How to Meet Someone at the Gym

How to Meet Someone at the Gym

Men like to think of themselves as logical, well reasoned creatures – and such a rational mindset freely extends to matters of romance. We're well aware that our character traits, hobbies and lifestyle choices need to sync well with the special someone we’re hoping to meet – and that time is sparse in the modern world. If you're a man who works out, it's reasonable to assume that the gym is a good place to look for a partner. Who said men couldn't multitask?
The problem, as lifestyle expert and relationship coach Rebecca Fredericks puts it, is that men don't always maximise their opportunities when looking for romance on the gym floor.
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"We get it, we get it", Fredericks says, with a hint of exasperation. "The gym is somewhere where you feel that you look your best. You’re guns are on display for us all to see. You’re showing how very strong and manly you are without your friends taking the mickey out of you. What’s more, women who go to the gym obviously enjoy working out and probably maintain a healthy lifestyle, just like you. We can see what your thinking.
"The reality though is that it might not work out the way you planned. At the gym, we women are on a mission. For many of us, this mission has the goal of working as hard as we can and burning as many calories as possible. In order to attain this goal we need to focus, we need to concentrate, and we need to sweat. And, generally, this means that we’re not thinking about men, dating or looking in any way attractive."

Fredericks points out that many women don't have romance on the mind when they step onto the gym floor. "When we are on the lookout for a new boyfriend, we like to feel that we’re looking great, wearing clothes that flatter our bodies as well as being in control of how red, puffy and sweaty our face is. We want to feel confident, and in control. The gym just isn’t that place for most of us.
"So, if you try and strike up a conversation whilst we’re on the cross-trainer, going for a PB on the deadlift, heaving ourselves into a pull up, or even filling up our water bottles mid session, we’re unlikely to be at our most receptive, friendly or flirty. You might even get snapped at – but try not to take it too personally. Any meanness is probably down to the fact that we're embarrassed about the unseemly sweat stain on our pale grey leggins that's steadily spreading from our crotch to our knees."
Does that mean we're destined to accept a reality in which we know we are surrounded by likely matches but duly keep schtum for fear of calling attention to their sweat patches? I'm not sure that fits too well with the male psyche – and besides, we all sweat and smell in the gym, right?
Fredericks says that men shouldn't ban themselves from approaching someone in the gym – but they should at least pay attention to four simple guidelines ...
1. Get Your Timing Right
"It’s all about timing. Trying to start a conversation whilst we’re in the middle of a cardio blast or a weights set just isn’t sensible. Even if we’re open to a friendly chat, we’ll be out of breath and not able – or willing – to give you our full attention. The optimum time to approach us will be on our way into or out of the gym, post shower. That way, I promise you, you’ll get a much warmer response."
2. Focus on Content
"Unless we ask for your advice, it’s best not to offer it. I know you think you’re being helpful and showing your skill and expertise, but it’s just a bit annoying. Avoid trying to start a conversation with: ‘If you want to really target your glutes you should squat a little lower’; ‘You know, the bench press is much more effective than the chest press machine’; ‘you look really sexy doing bicep curls’; or the dreaded ‘Ah you sweat a lot at the gym too!’
"Steer yourself onto safer, yet still relevant subjects such as how many sets we have left on the machine, whether we’re using the t-bar attachment or whether we know of any local sporting events or teams you could join.
"Alternatively you could really shake things up and ask our advice on how to do something. "
3. Look Good
"If you’re going to approach us, please make sure that you look and smell good. If you’ve just done a 5k run on the treadmill, it’s probably not the best time. Wear clothes that make you look your best and don’t forget the deodorant and aftershave."
4. Bide Your Time
"Don’t approach a girl on your, or her, first gym visit. We’re much more likely to give you a warm response if we’ve seen you a few times, otherwise you’re just a stranger in the gym.
For the same reason, sharing a class can be a great way to meet someone. It means you see each other regularly and you have a shared experience to talk about."
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Monday 27 October 2014

There's An Online Dating 'Tipping Point,' According To A New Study

There's An Online Dating 'Tipping Point,' According To A New Study

The rules of dating are not simple and finite -- they're complicated and constantly changing, especially when you factor in online dating. Now, a new study has unearthed yet another thing you could be getting wrong: Online daters can doom themselves to disappointment if they wait too long to meet prospective partners in person.
A new study published recently in the Journal of Computer-Mediated Communication describes an online dating "tipping point," when too much online communication before a first date causes a person to idealize someone they're interacting with prior to actually meeting them face to face. This, naturally, leads to a letdown upon meeting someone who doesn't match lofty expectations. That "tipping point" occurs after 17 to 23 days, according to the researchers, so you don't want to wait longer than that to pencil in a get-together.

Lead researcher Artemio Ramirez, Jr., Ph.D., an Associate Professor at the University of South Florida, had some personal inspiration for conducting the study: He met his wife on eHarmony in 2005.
"We actually met face-to-face within that 17- to 23-day window, where we say the impressions and idealizations are at that peak, the most positive level that they'll be prior to meeting face to face," Ramirez told The Huffington Post. "I'm saying this in retrospect, because I had no idea at the time."
If you wait too long to meet, you'll start making assumptions.
Ramirez and his colleagues were interested in looking into how people process information they read in online dating profiles, hypothesizing that most would make assumptions, fill in the blanks and elaborate on the limited, highly curated information they were given.
"For instance, if you say you have a great sense of humor, I start thinking: Not only do you have a great sense of humor, you have a great sense of humor the way that think of sense of humor," Ramirez said. "There's a difference between the 'pull my finger' sense of humor versus the Monty Python sense of humor."
After conducting a national online survey of 433 online daters who had been on an in-person date within the last year, the researchers were able to support their hypothesis. They found that the longer people waited to meet an online match, the more likely they were to be disappointed when they finally met in person, an effect that was particularly seen after that "tipping point" period.
"That runs counter to what we're taught in face-to-face situations: You should get to know the person and learn a little bit about them," Ramirez said. "We're saying, 'Yes, getting to know them is good, but you're going to reach a point where you really should go meet them face to face, otherwise you're running the risk of thinking that this person is perfect, that they are The One.'"
Not to mention, people lie in their profiles all the time.
The people in Ramirez's sample reported that their disappointment often stemmed from their date not communicating in person the same way they communicated online. Perhaps their sense of humor was a bit different or their pictures didn't adequately represent them. Or maybe the person lied about something in their profile. Someone might claim they're 6 feet tall when they're 5 foot 6 or that they're avid rock climbers when they haven't scaled a wall since college. Hence, the disappointment.
"There's a learning curve in terms of being able to read between the lines on profiles," Ramirez said. "We want people to think positively of us."
Essentially, too much online interaction makes you think you know a person better, Ramirez said. Plus, even if someone isn't lying in their profile, people aren't the sum of their favorite books, movies and music, so there's only so much one can glean from such limited data. But since it's natural for online daters to read between the lines and assign additional characteristics to prospective partners, the "real" person that meets them on that first coffee or movie date may not live up to their expectations, particularly if they've had too much time to craft a "dream" version of the person.
That said, Ramirez cautioned against considering this "tipping point" a hard and fast guideline. He said it's just another thing to consider while navigating the intricate universe that is online dating.
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How to Date Your Husband: 5 Tips to Keep You BOTH Happy

How to Date Your Husband: 5 Tips to Keep You BOTH Happy

After the kids come along, it’s pretty easy for couples to put working on their marriage off to the side. In fact, I’m firmly convinced that this has a lot to do with today’s divorce rate: too many couples allow their marriages to slide while they focus all of their time and energy on raising their children. While the kids are definitely important, raising them shouldn’t come at the expense of your primary relationship. And yes, I went there. Your marriage, not your children, should be your primary relationship in life. After all, parenting is about preparing our kids to eventually spread their wings and fly off to lives of their own, while our marriages are supposed to be forever.

Dating is an important part of marriage and something that far too many couples don’t make an effort toward nearly enough. Of course your relationship will change after kids come along, but that’s no reason that you shouldn’t still date your husband or wife while you’ve got kiddos at home. If it’s been awhile since you made an effort to actually date your husband, here are some ideas for getting things started again.
1. Mark it on your calendar.
Make dates a priority in your life. Make your time together non-negotiable. Let your kids know that this is mummy and daddy’s time to spend together. Anticipation can be a fun part of dating. And even if you’re only slipping out for a walk to enjoy an ice cream together on a summer evening, it’s good to have something to look forward to.
2. Dress up!
Remember how fun it used to be to get dressed up for a night out on the town? Spend a little extra time getting ready for your dates with hubby, even if it just means putting on a shirt that doesn’t have spit-up stains on it. A little extra effort lets your partner know that they’re worth it, and makes it feel like a special occasion.
3. Hold hands.
Holding hands is one of those little things in life that can really help you feel connected to your partner. A simple touch can say, “I’m here, and I’m paying attention.” It will also help to remind you of the good old days when you couldn’t keep your hands off each other.
4. Don’t talk about the kids.
It can be easy to fall into the trap as parents where you spend all of your time focusing on your kids. The point of dating your spouse is to focus some time on the other things you have in common with them. Put talk about the cute thing that Sally did at dinnertime on the back burner and choose some adult conversation instead.
5. Flirt.
Flirting is important for keeping the spark alive in your marriage. It reminds your partner that you see them not just as a parenting partner, but as your lover as well. Take yourselves back to the early days of dating and make sure that you let your spouse know that you think they’re attractive and interesting. Bonus points if you’re able to make them feel like a hot and bothered teenager again.

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Sunday 26 October 2014

Why men love us grumpy women (and heaven help them if they dare to argue!)

Why men love us grumpy women (and heaven help them if they dare to argue!)
One thing is almost guaranteed to make a woman grumpy, and that’s telling her that she’s being grumpy.

Which is why a new survey suggesting that we spend ten days a year being in a bait might not have been the best way to start the week.

Women are not born grumpy, you know. We just get that way over time. And the older we get, the grumpier we grow. It’s just Nature’s way.

Only ten days a year? That’s nothing: I can fit that much grumpiness into a week if I really put my mind to it.
The main problem is that almost everything to do with being a woman is either quite annoying, really annoying, or just downright maddening.

In no particular order: bras, tights, pregnancy, childbirth, waxing, breastfeeding, babies, that fiddly plastic bit on the top of the milk, squabbling children, duvet covers, husbands, bin collection timings, the PTA, parallel parking and mothers-in-law.

Life is one constant, low-level source of irritation.

All of which must make being a man quite tricky. And occasionally scary.

Which is why the true test of a man’s mettle is how he deals with his partner’s moods.

Only the purest of hearts can endure the never-ending nag about The Correct Loading Of The Dishwasher.

And Sir Lancelot himself would have surrendered, weeping, in the face of the relentless rant of Is It Too Much To Ask That You Look After The Kids For Half A Day Without Destroying The House?

For all that, though, any man with a spine won’t mind all that much.

    Deep down, he knows that his partner’s grumpiness is really a sign of affection.

    Besides, who wants to be married to a boringly perfect cheerleader type? All that simpering smiling and vapid enthusiasm for everyone and everything.

    It may be attractive to begin with, but over time it can really start to grate.

    In fact, I’m pretty sure that the last thing my husband wants when he gets home from work is an irritatingly perky wife, someone who’s going to try to engage him in polite conversation about his day, help him with his slippers and hand him a freshly made gin and tonic.

    One thing is almost guaranteed to make a woman grumpy, and that’s telling her that she’s being grumpy
    One thing is almost guaranteed to make a woman grumpy, and that’s telling her that she’s being grumpy
    Or at least if he does, he’s not bloody getting one.

    No, he wants someone who will silently indicate supper and then sit scowling at the television, occasionally emitting a grunt to indicate general disapproval at the parlous state of the world, while he gets on with his paperwork.

    As for me, grumpy is so much more compelling than cheery. Sexy, even.

    Just look at Hugh Laurie in the TV medical drama House. Or Mr Darcy in Pride And Prejudice, the original Mr Grump (‘she is tolerable, but not handsome enough to tempt me’).

    Ladies-wise, I for one am thoroughly enjoying Scary Spice’s renaissance in this year’s series of The X Factor. So much more entertaining than Cheryl’s saccharine ‘good effort, pet’.

    And as for Theresa May, well, all hail the High Priestess of Grump, second only to the Queen herself in her ability to evoke thunder with a mere twitch of her nostrils.

    That’s my theory, at least. And if you don’t like it, you can jolly well lump it.

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