Wednesday 29 October 2014

Sex Tips: 11 Ways Busy People Can Have More Sex

Sex Tips: 11 Ways Busy People Can Have More Sex

In theory, the colder weather is the perfect excuse to snuggle with your sweetie under a blanket, but if you can’t imagine when you’d have the time for all that unproductive cuddling, you’re not alone.
"The usual advice works — date night, making time for sex, etc.,” says erotica author Kate Allure. “But whenever our lives get busy, especially around the holidays, we tend to drop those things that seem expendable.”
One-third of Canadians are overwhelmed about their work often or very often, according to research from the University of Toronto. Another 2012 Ipsos Reid poll found a fifth of Canadians were too busy preparing and organizing for the holidays to actually enjoy the time with family and friends. If we’re all feeling that busy and stressed, it’s no wonder sex can fall to the bottom of the priority list.
The solution? Find a way to make sure sex doesn't feel like an impossible task. These 11 tips will help you find time to get frisky this fall/winter, no matter how busy you are.

1. Make Any Day Special

Kristina Wright, author of Bedded Bliss: A Couple’s Guide to Lust Ever After, points out that you don’t have to wait for anniversaries or birthdays to have so-called special sex. Any day can be special, including the anniversary of the first time you made out, the day you've finally potty trained your youngest child, or just because it’s Tuesday. "Whatever it takes, whenever you can manage it, celebrate this crazy, messy, busy life you’ve created together

2. Get Out Of The House

It’s tempting to just bunker down and stay in when the weather starts to get chilly, but the problem is that your home has so many things that distract you from alone time: dishes, kids, computers, and even the television. Find a way to physically remove yourself from the things that keep you from making time for each other. Try checking into a nearby hotel for a night or even a local Airbnb spot.

3. Shower Together

Napping baby? Head to the bathroom and get clean (or dirty) together, Wright suggests. It doesn't have to end in sex — all that matters is the time spent alone together, and the re-connection from touch. As a bonus, you can save time and water!

4. Bring In An Expert

Sometimes it’s hard to think of ways to reignite the spark when your mind is full of tasks and to-do lists from your busy day. After Nine Tonight, a site run by a husband-and-wife team who've dealt with their own issues around a stalled sex life, offers sex tips that could give you some ideas.

5. Don't Dismiss The Quickie

Yes, it’s nice to have an entire evening together, but sometimes there just isn't time for an extended romantic rendezvous. Sex doesn't have to be an all-or-nothing event. A quickie can remove the pressure from those, “Oh god, it’s been XX days since we've done it” thoughts in your head, and remind you how much you enjoy spending time together.

6. Schedule Sex

No, it’s not very romantic to literally make an appointment to get naked with your partner, but is it less romantic than not having the time at all? “No matter how busy you are at work or what sort of responsibilities are distracting you at home, you know you'll have one-on-one time with your love,” says Lori Bizzoco, founder of Cupid’s Pulse. "Turn off your phones, shut the door, and focus on each other."

7. Constantly Kindle The Flame

Don’t wait until you’re about to have sex to get romantic, advises Heidi Shimberg, co-author of the upcoming book CoupleCEO. "Send romantic and titillating texts or emails randomly throughout the day and week,” Shimberg suggests. "This will make each partner excited and eager for the time to be intimate; they will be extremely less likely to skip being intimate.”

8. But Don't Forget Intimacy

It’s hard to get revved up for sex when you’re feeling disconnected from your partner. Don’t forget to work on your intimacy as well, in big and little ways. Send a quick note during the day, or text just to say you’re thinking of your spouse. Make a point of touching more often. Talk about how you’re feeling and where you’re struggling. Fostering those connections will make it easier to make sex a priority, and remind you why you’re with this person in the first place.

9. Make A Sexual Bucket List

Are there things you've always wanted to do in bed, or want to do again? Work on your sexual bucket list together, Wright says, and go to it when you find yourself with some time to spend on it.

10. Simplify

Not every surface in your house has to be spotless. Not every meal has to be made from scratch. If hiring a bi-weekly cleaner and ordering takeout on Fridays means you have more time for each other, so be it. Sometimes you have to spend money to make whoopee.

11. Turn Off The Big Black Box

Do you have time to watch "Scandal?" Then you have time to get busy! Set the DVR and get to it. We think Olivia Pope would approve.

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