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Thursday, 10 September 2015

Women Draw Their Ideal Penis

"This is very amusing.....sorry all you guys out there. I cant help but wonder what the outcome would have looked like if the men were asked to do the drawings" - Susan Watts

Women Draw Their Ideal Penis

“This is actually my favourite thing to do, draw penises.”

Women first discussed their optimal penis size.

Results definitely varied! This woman said she opposed large penises, as they give her “tummy cramps.”

And this woman had a visceral reaction to an uncircumcised penis, but that’s just her opinion.

After talking about their ideal penis, it was time to draw it out.

This woman had to think back to her morning routine to imagine her perfect penis.

But this woman has drawn a d*ck or two and knew exactly where to begin.

And this woman just had to think back on the many penises she’s seen to decide which to draw.

Some of the women used a ruler to measure their drawing ...

while others used their hands…

But this woman wasn’t happy with the tools at her disposal.

This woman’s boyfriend will be happy to hear she drew his anatomy.

…and now we know a lot about him.

But look at all these ideal penises!

So many different penises!

This one has to be the most unique, though.

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Tuesday, 11 August 2015

8 Things You Never Knew About Your Butt

There's a reason why your butt is bigger than your boyfriend's.

1. Your butt muscles are the largest muscles in your whole body. Think about it, your butt has to keep your whole torso up (and the stronger your butt muscles are, the higher you can jump, if that's a thing you need to do). So you can do all of the arm curls you want, but your butt will still probably be stronger than the rest of your body because there's just so much serious muscle mass there holdin' it down (this is also a great time to acknowledge how badass your butt is no matter what size it is because it is seriously a freaking powerhouse).

2. Your butt could get alcohol poisoning far more easily than your mouth. Drinking with your butt (aka using alcohol enemas) might sound hilarious and fun but pouring alcohol into your butt means the alcohol doesn't have the stomach and liver (which help make alcohol less toxic) to go through before it gets into your blood stream, which means you're likely to get drunk much faster. Plus, at that point, even if you do feel like throwing up, the alcohol isn't in your stomach so you can't throw it up and then you're really screwed because there's no other way to get it out faster, which is terrifying. Point is, just don't do this.

3. Wiping your butt with baby wipes might not actually be a great idea. Dr. Michele S. Green told Cosmopolitan.com that a lot of people have allergic reactions and can get dermatitis from the chemicals in baby wipes (and babies can have this same problem), so you're really better off just sticking to soap and water or regular toilet paper.

4. You have a bigger butt than your boyfriend because that's where your estrogen tells fat to go. Men's bodies tell their fat to go to their stomachs but women's estrogen directs it right to our butts, which is why you're more likely to see a guy getting heavier in his stomach and have his butt stay the same size for life.

5. You can get skin cancer on your butt even if its never seen the light of day. Angela J. Lamb, MD, assistant professor of Dermatology of the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai, says skin cancer can appear on unlikely places like between your fingers and toes, and on your underarms, butt, and genitals, so make sure your doctor is checking every where on your body because you never know and also keep an eye out yourself (a hand mirror is your friend).

6. There's actually a word that means "I totally get turned on by butts." It's called Pygophilia btw, in case that's a word you feel like working into daily conversations for some reason.

7. The bigger your butt is, the smarter you are. According to a University of Oxford study, being a woman with a big butt was linked to being more intelligence, supposedly due to having more omega-3 fats which help with brain development (but fear not, brilliant small-butt women. It's just one study's opinion).

8. Your big butt actually makes you less likely to get seriously ill. That same University of Oxford study that told you your big butt makes you smarter also found that women with bigger butts are less likely to get diabetes and heart disease, even though those are two things usually associated with obesity. Basically, the fat in the lower parts of your body release fewer cytokines, which are often linked to insulin resistance that can lead to diabetes. So having more fat down there is actually protecting you, while helping you look pretty babely TBH. Thank you, butts.

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Thursday, 2 July 2015

Are You "Plan A" or "Plan B"?

Woman looking over shoulder of man who has look of disinterest

Are You "Plan A" or "Plan B"?

You've begged, pleaded and bargained with God to please bring him back. You've sworn that you will be a better person and appreciate him more. You just know that this person holds the key to unlock the door to happiness for you. Without him, you're nothing. You're miserable and you're lonely.

Then, as if the heavens opened up and sprinkled golden stars on the telephone that hasn't rung in months - it rings. It's him. Of course he can come over. He does, and he is pouring his heart out to you, reciting a multitude of past "sins" and apologies. He showers you with accolades of how much you have meant to him, and how totally empty and uneventful life has been without
you.You are the only one he's been able to think about ever since the two of you parted ways
.

You listen and find your heart overflowing with love. You leave behind all the pain and resentment you felt when you were unceremoniously dropped and your heart was tossed in front of a semi truck. Caught up in the romantic moment, you lose all memory of him dancing merrily off into the sunset with the creature he met at a bar a few months ago. You want to believe what is being said is true. You need to believe that you are the one that made the difference in his life, and that you are the one that is the brilliant star that makes his life complete.

The lines are cast … and yes, you take the bait. And once again, you don't hear from him. You call, but there are no return calls. Nothing happens. No magical nights as promised. No better "boyfriend" after all.

What happened?

You made it too easy for him to waltz back into your life. To him, it was just a check to ensure that you are still pining away for the relationship – or, in other words – you are "Plan B."

How do you avoid being "Plan B"? It's not easy, but here are a few tips:

Do not dwell on how great the relationship was. (It did break up for a reason.)
Do not sit alone by the phone hoping that it will ring.
Find some powerful music and listen to it! ("I Can Do Better" is a great start.)
Release the resentment, and be grateful that you were dumped. It gives you the opportunity to find someone better.
Allow yourself a brief mourning period. Suffering a loss of any kind deserves a period of mourning. If he cheated, it shouldn't take very long.
The first time he comes around and wants to get back together, do not cave in to his litany extolling your virtues – listen, but tell him you'll think about it.
The second time he comes around, let him know you're still considering it.
The third time he comes around, tell him you'll discuss it with your current significant other (who could be anyone – your dog can always be your significant other.)
The fourth time he comes around, let him know that you need to actually see the behavior changes. Talk is cheap. Using promises of this or that just isn't going to cut it.
The fifth time he comes around, tell him you will go to dinner and see how that goes. Hopefully you will have gotten over the "ex" by the 5th time, and refuse to do anything with him.

The whole point is simple. If you do not want to be a "Plan B," you must alter your attitude to be "Plan A" … and this means that you force your ex to work for you! If you hold a "Plan A" frame of mind, you will get the respect that "Plan A"s deserve. And here's a big hint: when you have that "Plan A" attitude, you will attract someone who respects you – and chances are your ex will remain an ex.

Start today: Be the "Plan A"!

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Tuesday, 2 December 2014

Can I Get Her Back?

Can I Get Her Back?

Darragh asks: "My girlfriend and I were together for a number of years, and then I really messed up. I've tried calling her, texting her, showing up at her house, talking to her friends.. and she's just asked me to leave her alone. I can't get her out of my head though. I just want her back! Help?"

When a relationship ends, regardless of the reason or fault, we all feel a gap in our lives. You're struggling with that gap Darragh, and that's what's fueling your need, almost desperation, to get her back. Let's look at how you got here, and what you can do about it to get back on track again - which may or may not include your former partner.

More: How to get introduced to your ideal partner

We're going to start with what not to do after a breakup, which in your case means you have to stop beating yourself up over whatever you feel you "messed up". All you can change is the here and now, or how you react in the future. That may mean reviewing your actions and coming up with a plan to ensure you react differently in the future, or forgiving yourself and accepting you did the best you could under the circumstances. It's cold turkey time though; if you need an elastic band around your wrist or a good friend to remind you every time you start on this tack again - do it.

Next up is breaking some bad habits that you (seem to have) adopted post-breakup. I strongly urge you to read the article I've linked to in order to work through this step. In a nutshell however, you want to look at any behaviors, actions, events, people or things that aren't serving you anymore, and like an addition, remove them from your life. How to remove them is the next step; we're just reviewing what they are at this point.

If you actually worked through all those steps (they'll take you a few weeks at best, a few months for most people), I'll hazard that you likely feel differently about your partnership now. Like I said to a dear friend recently, who broke up with his girlfriend of five years, "If you really want to see if she's The One, you have to take a long break from one another. Six months at least. Give each other some space and time to figure out what went wrong, what needs reviewing, how you can be a better you. If after that point you're still questioning her Rightness, then, and only then, do you make contact to go for a walk-and-talk".How do you remove anything from your life, especially if you've got a lot of emotional attachment to it? You fill that space with new things, things you love, things that give you an even stronger emotional pull towards the positive. More concrete ways to feel better after your breakup include doing the things again that you stopped doing while in the relationship, finding new hobbies you're passionate about, getting sweaty with a good workout, or traveling somewhere new and exciting.

My friend has yet to heed this advice, even though he's agreed it's sound, and I'll readily admit I've struggled personally with the same situation. The fact is, if you want a better, new relationship with someone you love, when there's history and it didn't work out positively in the past, you've got to take the time to focus on you first. Center yourself, calm yourself, inspire yourself to new heights. Review what you want your life to look like,what your ideal partner embodies, how you want to feel when you know you're mutually and madly in love. With some space, distance and time, you may well realize that that person is someone other than the woman you've written me about - or you may realize she's still The One in your heart. Either way, you'll have a clear answer, and all that you'll have to do is move towards whatever makes you the happiest.

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Thursday, 18 July 2013

When Should You Make Your Relationship Official?

Here’s How To Know & How To Do It

When you start dating someone new, the number one thing you start thinking about is probably when you should make your relationship official. Am I right? Wondering when to start calling that dude you’ve been hooking up with your boyfriend can be super stressful. If you say it at the wrong time, it can destroy any chance of a future relationship – but the same thing can happen if you wait too long. Argh.

Well, a recent study done by both Zoosk and Glamour revealed something a little bit surprising about when to make things official. They took a look at over 1,000 girls and 1,000 dudes and this is what they found: 25 percent of women think that you should wait “at least a few months” before making things legit, while 43 percent of guys thought “it takes a couple of good dates.”

So, how do you know when to make your sort-of-relationship an official relationship? That can be a little bit tricky.

Here’s something important that you need to remember: you have every right to ask the dude you’ve been hooking up with what he wants and if he’s interested in being your boyfriend. I know too many girls who are too afraid to ever bring up the Big Talk because they’re worried that it’s going to scare the guy off.That is ridiculous.

Listen, girls: if bringing up the r-word (relationship) is really going to scare the guy off, then he was never interested in seriously dating you to begin with and waiting longer was most likely not going to change that. That may sound harsh, but it’s true. If a guy is interested and worth your time, he’s not going to go running out the door when you ask him about being boyfriend and girlfriend.

Back to the first question. How do you know when it’s time to bring it up? I’m siding with the guys here: it’s best to wait until after a couple of great dates and hang out seshs. Don’t be all like, “BE MY BOYFRIEND” in the middle of a first date, okay? That will freak anyone out. Wait a few weeks, after you guys have been hanging out for a little while. This will give you both time to get to know each other and to figure out if you’d like to be in a relationship together. It will also give you time to get more comfortable to talk to him about it.

Want this? Sometimes you need to be strong and ask for it yourself. | Source: ShutterStock

Okay, so then how do you bring it up? I know that starting this conversation with a dude can be awkward, uncomfortable and completely nerve-wracking. Trust me, I know. I’ve done it a million times and let me just tell you guys something: I am really shy. So if I can talk about this with dudes, anyone can. I promise.

Like I said, this might be a slightly awkward convo – there might be no getting around that. But it’s worth it! Would you rather be lame and sit around waiting to hear what he thinks or would you rather take the initiative and find out where his head is on your own? Yeah, that’s what I thought.

Here’s what to do: first of all, this conversation should happen in person, not through text messages, Facebook chats or even on the phone. Second of all, you should be relatively calm when you bring it up. The worst time to do this is in the middle of a fight or in the middle of sex.

When asking your guy what he wants and if he wants to make the relationship official, you just need to be blunt. There’s no beating around the bush. Just say something like this: “I think we’ve been having a lot of fun these past few weeks and I really like you. I just want to know what you want out of this relationship? Are you interested in getting serious or are you not looking for anything like that?” Yes, ladies, you do have to tell him how you feel.

Another important thing to keep in mind: going into this, you need to know what you want. If you want a relationship, you need to say that. If you don’t, say that too. And don’t agree to things you don’t want. If the guy says he has no interest in being serious, he means it. Don’t be like, “Oh, okay, we can be friends with benefits” and secretly hope he’ll change his mind. He won’t. As much as it sucks, you may need to cut ties with him if things don’t go well. Don’t settle for something you don’t want just to be with him in some way!

Basically, this is a conversation that needs to happen. I know waaaayyyy too many girls who have been hooking up with a guy they really like for months and are too afraid to ask him what he wants. And you know what? These girls aren’t happy. They’re stressed because they have no clue what this dude wants because they’re too scared to say what they want. And you deserve better than that.

So, for lack of a better choice of words, man up and have The Talk with your guy after a few weeks of dating. No matter what happens, I promise that you won’t regret figuring things out on your own.

Have you ever had The Talk with a guy? What did you say? Are you afraid to ask to make things official?

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Sunday, 16 June 2013

10 Dating Tips on How to Be Different From the Competition!

Beautiful indian woman in Sari. Arabian bellydancer

Attracting the Man of your Dreams (MOYD) is about being different from the competition. Attraction is not being typical, and to be typical and expect gravely different results is not realistic.

Like any other beautiful bird who flaps its feathers to gain the attention of the most suitable mate, you must also separate yourself from what the average woman does on a daily basis so that you stand out when it comes to attracting the MOYD. Many would say they are not in competition with the next woman, but with the pickings being slim, I would beg to differ. But you are right. It is not necessarily a competition, but a stab at individuality that could attract that special MOYD. Remember this morning when you went to your closet and spent 30 minutes trying to figure out what you were going to wear today–which colors, which shoes? If it did not matter, you certainly would not have spent that time, and you might as well buy uniforms and wear the same outfit every day. Ironically, then you would actually be different, but maybe not in the most positive, communal sense. So stop fooling yourself. Being different does matter and does separate you, and it certainly will attract potential men of your dreams. If you agree, keep reading.

Do you really think the Man of Your Dreams is that dumb, and women are that smart, that we just have no clue what your normal patterns are? Or that we do not record in our minds what hundreds of women have said in response to basic questions? How many times have we heard the same boring responses? If you want different results or to be treated differently, act differently. Listen and use your intuition and five senses, as opposed to basing all your answers on fear or programmed responses. Yes, we understand that the average man may not have a clue, nor will he admit to you that he has heard that line a thousand times before, but in the back of his mind he is thinking just that. The problem is, most men will never tell you this because their immediate objective is to capture the prize. Once it has been captured and secured, then they start to analyze and ask questions. “Who are you?” Most men chase, capture, then ask real questions after the fact. This is our problem, which later becomes your problem. The best way to prevent this is to recognize your biggest fears and frustrations in meeting new men and overcome them with knowledge, and by actually talking and listening to the candidate. Yes, due to time constraints, you could choose the third option, not to speak at all, but please be respectful in your dismissal.

Programmed responses automatically signal to the MOYD that you are not using the gifts inside you, and that you are cheating yourself and him in the process. Because of your fears and programming, you will be less likely to recognize him or any other MOYD unless he fits into a certain preordained mold. Even if he had on a t-shirt with word “MOYD” printed on it, you still would not be able to see him because you are not using your intuition. This behavior is very typical when a woman meets a man. Remember, the fears you project come looking for you, but if you project positive energy and love and expect something good to happen, then those things will come instead. Most women are driven by fear and then wonder why they’re single. Be different; get over your fears by facing them. Next time that guy goes out of his way to say hello, make time. You are single! Be different than all the rest!

Ask yourself, are you trying to attract the average man or the MOYD?

Following is a list of what typical women do upon first meeting a potential MOYD. If you want to be different, listen up.

Ask “How do I know you are not some crazy stalker?” (Why Do I Always Attract Crazy Men?) The only way you are ever going to know for sure is by your initial conversation. If you truly listen within that first two minutes you will be able to discern exactly the type of individual you are dealing with and whether you want to move forward. Men are simple, and he will reveal who he is and his intentions in the first 60 seconds. You just have to know how to recognize the signs. (How to Interpret a Man’s Approach in 60 Seconds or Less) Don’t make this any more complicated than it is. The real problem is that most women don’t truly listen.

Say, “I am too busy right now and have to go.” You and I both know that the only place you were rushing to is your empty house with one cat and a dog. Make time to meet new people. It’s the only way you are going to meet the potential MOYD. Face your fears of meeting people head-on. Your days of being single will dramatically decrease.

Wait for the MOYD to approach them. If you see someone you like, go for it. Who cares what the latest Hollywood romance suggested? The question is, do you want a man or do you want to be at home alone in bed when you don’t have to be?

Limit the type of men they are attracted to. It’s like on an application form when they ask your race, and they have that box that says “other.” Check that box in your brain. True love sees no color, and this will increase your options dramatically. Once again, why be at home alone when the only reason is that you’re scared to meet other people? I know, it’s like an episode of “Lost.” “Who are the others?” (Is Race Still Relevant in the Dating World?)

Judge a book by its cover. You never know; the MOYD might just have gotten off of work on a construction job, or just come from the gym, which would explain the sweaty smell. The fact that he was able to approach you while not in his best light says something for his confidence. A plus. Keep in mind that a shower, a shave and a change of clothes could quickly turn night into day. So ask yourself the most important questions. Is he nice? Does he have good manners? Is he considerate of your time? And last but not least, does he work construction or did he just come from the gym?

Take his number, tell him they’ll call him, but never do. Do you know how many women give this corny line? Ladies, the principle of cause and effect governs all, and I cannot stress enough that your words can and will be held against you. They vibrate like radio waves and will come back to bite you through some other man that you are attracted to. Then it’s your turn to receive some of what you unconsciously put out into the universe. The best way to avoid stepping in your own boo-boo is to be different than all the rest, honor what you do and say and do your best to keep your promises. (The Evolution Of The Player. How Does A Regular Man Become A Player On The Dating Scene?) Here’s the scenario: You have given this corny line out so much that when you do meet the MOYD, it is he that will not call you back, and then you blame all the men on planet Earth for this one’s mistakes.

Go to the club obviously dressed to get attention, then say they have a boyfriend. But he is nowhere to be found. Then we see them a few minutes later conversing with the next man as if they are single. Huh? Once again, the natural laws of attraction are at work. You are purposely attracting men to you, but why, if you have a man? Would your man like that, or are you just using it to get rid of us? If so, it has a two-edged negative effect. If you really don’t have a man, you are constantly lying to men. Honesty is always the best policy. And if you really do have a man, you should not be at the club attracting all of the wrong attention as if you were single. If your imaginary man were to find out, you might as well stay at the club, because you will soon be single for real.

Give the potential MOYD their number but never return his calls or texts. Okay, this is what happens in a man’s mind. We start to overcompensate and look at women as a numbers game. We try to get as many numbers as possible, because just like the airlines, we must overbook, knowing there will be some no-shows, cancellations or duds in the group. To the observing woman it may look as if this man is the proverbial player, but in actuality, he already understands through experience the nature of meeting new women. Nine times out of 10, it’s the woman who is approached by the man and therefore has the power to dictate her desired outcome. (Women have the Power to Help Men Become Better) Once again, when you are not getting the result you want, think back to how many times you have given a man your number and never returned his call or, for that matter, never intended to.

9. Flat-out give a man the wrong number. That’s cold! Ladies, we know you think you have great reasons for giving a man the wrong number, but it is the rudest of dating behaviors. Just put yourself in the man’s shoes for a moment. You’ve gotten all dressed up and are looking great to attract the MOYD, so naturally you are going to attract other men. A man meets you and is excited to communicate with you. He asks for your number, gets home the next day to give you a call and some guy named Teddy picks up and says, “Hello!”

Him: Hello, can I speak to Jenny?

Teddy: Jenny who?

Him: Jenny??

Teddy: Man, you have the wrong number.

Can you say, next to the worst feeling in the world? How low did you just make that man feel?

10. Fail to take responsibility. You meet a nice guy, speak a few times and even go out on a date, and then you get real flaky. Essentially, you do not value the words that come out of your mouth. You will tell a man you are going to call back and never do. You will tell a man you and he are going out one night, then you never show up or even call to apologize. But the next time you do speak to him, a few days later, you will have an excuse that puts him at fault, instead of apologizing and taking responsibility. Believe me, karma and the natural laws of the universe are alive and well and eventually catch up to us all.

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Thursday, 10 September 2015