Best Valentine's Day Gift Ever: Happiness

"Can you define happiness?  I think that happiness can evolve out of the simplest of things, for example today I heard the birds singing at the first signs of light this made me happy. Seeing the daffodils that had pushed their way up out of the ground so early in the year this makes me happy.  

The points made in the article below cost nothing and are so simple, so well worth putting into action if it will make somebody happy".     -    Susan          
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Best Valentine's Day Gift Ever: Happiness

Oh, you thought I meant his/her happiness? As in making your honey happy with cards and flowers or wearing that sexy lingerie or going to that incredible restaurant? Not! All that's very nice, but it's YOU being happy that is the best Valentine's Day gift ever.

Because let's think about it: What are you like when you're happy? For one, you're not complaining about every little thing. You're not seeing problems and hassles everywhere. And you're certainly not blaming anyone for anything, especially not your honey. And whining? When you're happy, you're "fuggetaboutit."

When you're happy, you're a joy to be around. Not only that, you are more appreciative and grateful of your world, your life -- and your sweetheart. Because happiness does that. Just like when you're depressed all you can see around you are more reasons to be depressed, when you're happy all you can see around you are more reasons to be happy.

When you're happy, you look at your sweetheart with happy eyes. You see only his/her wonderfulness, those qualities that you fell in love with in the first place. You think about how much you enjoy being together, the deliciousness of your life together. You are naturally more cooperative, affectionate, enthusiastic.

Could anyone ask for a better Valentine's Day gift than that?

So, just for one day, kick your happiness into high gear. Deliberately refrain from voicing any complaint, from blaming your partner for anything, from nagging, whining, silent treatment-ing, stone-walling, and whatever else is on your list of subtle and not-so-subtle ways of expressing your unhappiness with some aspect of your honey's behaviour

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Indulge yourself in great appreciation for all that your sweetheart is and does. Do it loudly, with word and caress. Voice your appreciation to others, right in front of him/her. Declare your delight proudly.

I guarantee it will be a phenomenal Valentine's Day, and that any tangible gift you offer in addition will fairly glow with your unequivocal appreciation.

If you want to extend your amazing day of Valentine happiness, all you have to do is continue the process. Not that you must forever "hold your peace" in terms of complaints and the like, but that you think first. That you put yourself in a "let's find a solution" frame of mind, rather than a whiney, nagging, blaming frame of mind.

Friends and family don't need to be left out of the Valentine happiness. On the contrary, the happier you are around those you care about, the happier they become. Happiness is contagious -- as research has demonstrated. Happiness feels wonderful to all concerned, you and them.

Just to be clear, happiness isn't a matter of plastering a smile on your face. It's finding reasons to smile, legitimate reasons, all through your day.

The easiest way to do that is to look for things that you appreciate, things you value and are grateful for. For me it's as easy as appreciating that I am safe and dry in the midst of bad weather, appreciating a dear friend's kind words, remembering the feel of my sweetheart's hand in mine when he's not around. Appreciating the computer that allows me to write these words. The ideas that come, and people to share them with. There is so much, in the space of but one minute, that can be appreciated.

Happiness truly is the best Valentine's Day gift ever -- to yourself, your honey and everyone else.

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Study Finds Happiest People Have Sex Once A Week – And Make It Count

"Sexual quality has got to be better than quantity."     -  Susan

 Sarah Jessica Parker and Chris Noth in 2008’s Sex And The City: The Movie. Photograph: New Line/Everett/Rex Feature

Study Finds Happiest People Have Sex Once A Week – And Make It Count

According to new research, happiness peaks when couples have sex once a week but does not increase with greater frequency – and quality matters

Sex matters to couples until it doesn’t, according to new research that finds happiness peaks when couples have sex once a week but does not increase with greater frequency.

“Although more frequent sex is associated with greater happiness, this link was no longer significant at a frequency of more than once a week,” said lead researcher Amy Muise. 

Noting that research and popular culture have long suggested a linear correlation between sex and happiness – the more sex, more happiness – Muise and her colleagues at the University of Toronto Mississauga asked “Is it true that one can never have enough?”

For Americans whose survey answers they studied, “enough” amounted to sex about five times a month. Muise and her colleagues concluded that the relationship between sex and happiness was not linear but rather, appropriately, curvilinear. Their findings were published in the the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science.

“This is the first study to look at a curvilinear association between sex and well-being – so yes, the first to look at the ‘limits’ or ‘levelling off’ of this association,” Muise told the Guardian. 

“Other work – on non-sexual topics – has shown that sometimes seemingly positive things do not uniformly increase well-being – for example, socializing with friends.”

In one study the researchers analyzed survey responses from 1989 to 2012 about sexual frequency and happiness, from more than 25,000 Americans in all. The findings were consistent regardless of gender, age or the length of the couple’s relationship. 

The findings were specific to people in relationships, and researchers noted they found no association, linear or otherwise, between frequency of sex and well-being. 

“There is not a lot of information about who the single people were having sex with,” Muise said, noting that some could have been in kinds of relationships. “Looking at when and for whom having more frequent sex when single is beneficial is another area ripe for future research.”

The researchers could not make any concrete claims about the reasons why sex more than once a week does not make couples happier than only once. Muise suggested that a follow-up study could look at whether couples have sex less than once a week become happier if they have more, or that satisfaction might be related to people’s notions of ideal sexual frequency.

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“The big problem with this kind of work is that it’s correlational and not causal,” George Loewenstein, a professor at Carnegie Mellon University who was not involved in the research, said.

“People are basically having as much sex as they want, and for some reason it seems like couples who have found an equilibrium of about once a week seem to be happier. They didn’t control the independent variable, which is frequency of sex.”

Earlier this year Loewenstein led a study in which 32 of 64 married couples were asked to double their rate of intercourse and respond to short daily surveys about happiness. On average they managed to have 40% more sex, but not only were they not happier but found themselves feeling less energetic and having worse sex. Loewenstein said the lesson was simple: quality matters more than frequency.

“Sex can mean so many different things: there’s good sex, bad sex and we found that the quality of the sex affected happiness more than frequency. They didn’t have a measure of quality of sex.”

He noted that his studies run into limits of its own design. Researchers can find a curvilinear relationship with exercise or brushing your teeth, for instance. “And ours was worse in one sense,” he said, “it’s an artificial situation of someone telling you how much sex to have.”

Muise and her colleagues also compared the happiness brought by sex with that satisfaction of money, comparing reported well-being for each category. People who had sex less than once a month were less happy than those having sex once a week, the average, as were people who made $15,000-$25,000 a year versus $50,000-$75,000. The difference was greater regarding sex. 

“People often think that more money and more sex equal more happiness, but this is only true up to a point,” Muise said.

The context of relationships likely affected survey responses, the researchers said, as did the benefits of sex that carry over one day into the next. 

“The current set of studies help dispel the notion that sex has limitless benefits for well-being,” they wrote. “It’s important to maintain an intimate connection with your partner without putting too much pressure on engaging in sex as frequently as possible,” Muise added.

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9 Great Reasons to Love and Cherish Your Body Right Now

9 Great Reasons to Love and Cherish Your Body Right Now

People who struggle with weight will always talk of depressing days and other times when they feel less than human being due to a part of their body they aren't happy with.

Weight issues is always one of the most discussed topics among people. People who struggle with weight will always talk of depressing days and other times when they feel less than human being due to a part of their body they aren't happy with.

Jolie Brownell of All Women Stalk  lists reasons you shouldn't worry about your weight and love yourself better than anyone else:

1. Being unhappy with your body isn't going to change it right this minute!: Even if you do want to change your appearance, it’s not going to happen overnight. And while I totally encourage you to meet your goals, constantly harping on how much you hate your current body isn’t going to help. Instead, try accepting what you have and then working towards what you ultimately want.
2. Big or small, the people who truly love you will continue to love you no matter what you look like!: If someone needs you to look a certain way before they can accept you, drop them. The people who truly matter will love you no matter how many stretch marks line your boobs.
3. Appearances eventually fade!: Looks are not forever, just like life. Let’s make the best of what we have right now. You will always be beautiful at every age, including the age you are now...so LOVE your beauty!!
4. Society's standards of beauty are meant to be tested!: As Jes Baker says, “…we are taught as a society that IF we achieve the ideal body that we see in traditional media (and not before) we will then obtain love, worthiness, success and ultimately- happiness.” We should be taking charge of our bodies and changing the impossible standards Hollywood has set for us and creating our own happiness. YOU decide what’s best for you. Don’t let this idea of an “perfect body” trick you into feeling like you’re a lesser person because you don’t have it. Which leads me to number 5….
5. Everybody is a perfect body!: Is your body alive? Is it allowing you to read this article? Yes? Then you have a perfectly fine body. There is no such thing as one version of a “perfect body.”
6. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!: If there’s one thing being on the Internet a lot has taught me, it’s that there truly is something out there in the world for everyone. Think no one will find you sexy because you’re a size 24? Wrong. Think no one will ever find you butt cellulite attractive? Wrong again. Think there’s no way on earth that anyone anybody could find your itty bitty titties appealing? Uh-uh.  My point is that the definition of what’s beautiful/sexy/hot is different for everyone. Don’t hide yourself because your definition is different than someone else’s. Salma Hayek also explains how though they say beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, "it is the realization that you are the beholder. This empowers us to find beauty in places others would dare not look...including inside ourselves!"
7. Your confidence, sexuality and happiness depends on it:When you love yourself, it shows – your confidence will radiate, and you’ll be an all-around happier person. Life goes by really fast; don’t spend all of it being unhappy about what you look like.
8. You'll miss out on some of the best moments of your life:If you spend so much time obsessing over what swimsuit makes you look the best that you miss out on going to the beach, what’s the point? Don’t let your fear of what others think about your body dictate your life.
9. You are more than what you look like!: When you die, no one will stand up to eulogize you and say, “Her thin thighs and perky tits will be forever missed.” They will talk about what kind of person you were – your kindness, your warmth, your generosity and tenacity. They will talk about your accomplishments and your drive and how they’ll miss your laugh. Remember that the next time you’re in the dressing room, staring at those swimsuits. You’re more than just a body.

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25 Beliefs Every Man Needs to Have About Women and Life

25 Beliefs Every Man Needs to Have About Women and Life  by  Sebastian Harris

What do you believe in? I am sure you believe in something. Every man does. The only problem is that a lot of men in today’s day and age believe in things that are completely wrong and that are in no way beneficial to their personal development.

We live in a time in which the mainstream media does everything they can to pull men and women apart. We live in a time in which women are conditioned to believe that men are nothing but disposable ATMs. We live in a time in which you are a hero when you make fun of men and a villain if you make the same joke about women.

Even though it is understandable that this development led to a community of men who decide to live their life without women, I wouldn’t say that a life without women and without any love and sex is a life worth living.

In order to live a happy and fulfilled life we men need women, whether we accept it or not. I have never met a guy who was truly fulfilled in his life, who hadn’t had at least one beautiful woman in his life. You deserve an amazing life and you deserve gorgeous women.

What’s the secret to a happy life and successful relationships with women? Instead of believing all the negative things that our society wants you to believe, it is time to believe the things that have the power to transform your life into a never-ending adventure.

1. Life is Full of Possibilities

Some women will reject you. So what? Some people will become jealous and hateful as soon as you become successful. So what? We live in a world that makes it so easy to bring other people down, but we also live in a world of endless possibilities.

Due to the fact that you are reading this article I simply assume that you have an electronic device that allows you to open websites and that you have a working internet connection. Congratulations, you are not homeless and you have even enough money to buy luxury products, such as laptops or smartphones.

You can do whatever you want with your life. A poor Filipino street child who will never be able to read this article doesn’t have the same possibilities as you have.

2. Happiness Comes From Within

Are you ready for the shocking truth? A woman can never make you happy. Having amazing women in your life can increase your happiness level, but only if you were already happy before.

Do you really think that a beautiful, emotionally healthy and self-confident woman wants to date a completely miserable guy? No, you can only attract the things or people into your life that your energy allows you to attract.

The sooner you accept that true happiness comes from within, the sooner you will be able to attract a woman who makes you even happier.

3. A Man Needs Women to Feel Like a Man

You can try to talk yourself into believing that you don’t need women in your life as much as you want, your subconscious mind will never believe you. We are biologically programmed to want sex and we only feel like real men once we had the pleasure to be inside a woman.

Stop lying to yourself and stop pretending that you don’t care when you see guys who have beautiful girlfriends. Admit that you also want to have beautiful women in your life and do everything in your power to learn how to seduce them.

4. Self-Confidence is Key

Before you go out and approach the first woman you have to work on your self-confidence. No expensive car, not fancy job title and no trophy girl can replace real self-confidence.

Developing self-confidence is absolutely essential if you want to become successful in anything in life. You need skills to become successful, but without the necessary self-confidence you will never try to become successful, even though you might have all the potential in the world.

If you come from a place of love, she will be a lot more willing to love you, than if you come from a place of anger, hate and resentment.

5. Loving Women is Important

Do you love women? The more comments I read on popular manoshpere blogs, the more I get the feeling that there are a lot of men out there who hate women. If you really hate women you will never have the seduction success you truly want.

You might be able to attract emotionally unstable girls with severe daddy issues but you won’t attract the fun and life-affirming women that are good for you. Women are very sensitive and the moment they see you they instantly feel where you come from.

6. I Have Feelings

Every man has feelings. Unfortunately, a lot of young guys are so brainwashed by this whole alpha movement that they start to believe that a strong man is a man without feelings. Just because you suppress your feelings and just because you pretend to be an emotionless rock, doesn’t mean that you are strong.

The truly strong men are the ones who accept their emotions and who are confident enough to show their vulnerable side to women. Accept that you have feelings and show them in an authentic way. This is way more attractive than walking around as the strong alpha man who doesn’t have any emotions.

7. Being Authentic is Better than Being Fake

There is a saying that women can fake orgasms but men can fake whole relationships. Even though I hate stereotypical sayings, I have to admit that this one is true. So many men try to impress women with things that they don’t have or with behavior that doesn’t represent who they really are.

You might be able to fake it for the first few dates, but if you end up in a relationship with a girl she will sooner or later find out who you really are. The moment she finds out that you pretended to be someone you are not is the moment she decides to leave you.

Be real, be authentic and you will attract the women who love you for who you are.

8. No One Cares About Me

“No one cares about me!”

How can this be a positive belief? I know that it sounds quite frustrating but accepting the fact that (nearly) nobody cares about you can be very liberating.

No one really cares if you are successful. That means you can finally stop caring what other people think and start your own business.

No one cares if you approach the women in the red dress or not. Your fears of being judged and being looked at are completely irrational. Nobody freaking cares. Walk up to her and say “hi”!

You can do whatever you want, because 99% of the people won’t even witness what you do.

9. Success Attracts Haters

Don’t quit, just because someone hates you for what you do. I write about foreign dating and seductionand if I would quit whenever someone tells me that he doesn’t like what I do, I would have given up on my dreams before I even started.

Success attracts haters.

As soon as you will have the slightest success in any area of your life, there will be people who are jealous and who will hate you for what you do. They only do this because you show them their own failure.

Letting those haters dictate your life will lead you straight into misery.

10. I Will Lose Friends

Do you know that you will lose friends?

Maybe I should formulate this question a little bit different.

Do you know that you will lose friends if you want to improve yourself?

A man like you, who wants to improve his dating life and his life in general, will lose one or two friends along the way. This is an inevitable process. Everyone has one or two people in his social circle who will try to put him down as soon as he tries to reach the top.

Get rid of those false friends and make some room for new friends.

11. I Will Get New Friends

Saying that it is lonely at the top is not really true. The only difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is that the people who reached a certain level of success got rid of the negative people.

For every false friend you lose their will be two amazing new friends who enrich your life.

12. Women are Not Stupid

Whenever I talk about dating and seduction with a group of men, there is always one guy in the group who thinks that all women are stupid and naïve girls who can be tricked into bed so easily. It is not surprising that the same guy who says things like that is the one who has no girlfriend.

Women are not stupid.

In fact, when it comes to emotional intelligence and being aware of emotional conditions, they are often better than us. Sorry guys, but that’s the truth. If you still think that women are stupid, you should probably rethink why you always end up dating the dumb girls.

13. Unhappy Women Make Me Unhappy

Stay away from emotionally unstable women. If you disregard this advice I can guarantee you that you will end up miserable. I know from my own experience how life-sucking it is to be together with a depressed and anxious woman.

I even have someone in my social circle who is together with a woman who can only survive the day with the right dose of antidepressants. Do your emotional, financial and your physical health a favor and stay away from those women.

14. I Only Take Advice from People Who Have Done What I Want to Do

When I made the decision to overcome my fears and to seduce amazing women, I was so enthusiastic about this topic, that I asked friends and family for advice. Back then I had no experience with women and I was stupid enough to believe in the advice they gave me.

Today I wouldn’t make the same mistake again. No matter what you want to accomplish, only ask people for advice who have already done what you want to do. You also wouldn’t ask a homeless person how to become a millionaire.

15. Women Love Sex

Women are innocent little angels who only use sex to end up in relationships, right? Wrong!

Women love sex. If you don’t believe me, look at a female body. Women have a clitoris and the only reason why this thing exists is because it allows them to feel sexual pleasure.

The belief that women only use sex to end up in a relationship is one of the biggest misbeliefs in the history of dating advice. Women love sex. They love it with strangers, in open relationship and sometimes even in monogamous relationship, at least when they are together with a man who knows how to satisfy them.

16. Women are Attracted to Dominant Leaders

In case you live in a Western country you have probably heard that every woman should be in a leadership position. Well, even if you are dating a woman who leads a team of ten people at work, she for sure doesn’t want to be the leader in the relationship with you.

Don’t be one of those guys who believe that just because a woman is independent and dominant at work, she also wants to be dominant in bed. The happiest relationships are the ones where the dominant male energy and the submissive female energy are in balance.

Women want dominant men who have leadership qualities. Don’t be afraid to lead her in the bedroom, just because she leads people at work.

17. Most Women are Constantly Horny and Lonely

When I started with approaching women I believed that I would offend girls by giving them direct compliments and that I would disturb them with my approach. I was so wrong.

The more women I approached, the more I realized that they nearly always smiled when I told them that they were beautiful and that a lot of the girls who were single were happy to put their number into my phone.

I once had a date with a model who told me that she hadn’t had sex in five months. Believe it or not but the most beautiful women are very lonely and extremely horny. Do them a favor and approach them.

18. I am What I Do

Who are you? To a certain extent you are what you do. If you are wasting your precious time in front of the TV eating chocolate cake, you are a lazy guy who probably won’t attract amazing women into his life.

If you, however, spend your time with traveling, working on interesting projects and doing what you really love to do, you are an attractive man who is able to effortlessly attract women.

19. Porn is Poison

Do you feel like a real man when you hold your dick in your hand while you are watching one porn movie after another? Do you feel satisfied when you ejaculate in a tissue paper while you are watching another guy having sex with a hot girl?

Porn is poison and it destroys your motivation to meet women and it can be a major reason for social anxiety. Quit watching other guys having sex with women and start overcoming your fears, so that you can have sex with real women.

20. I Date Who I Want

What if some people think that you are a sex tourist because you are dating an Asian girl? Who cares!

What if some people think that you are a weirdo because you are dating an older woman? Who cares!

Don’t let other people tell you who you should date. No matter what someone else says, it is your choice if you want to date Asian, white, or black women and it is your choice if you are looking for girls who are ten years older or ten years younger than you.

21. I Date How I Want

Unfortunately, there are still some people who will stare at you like a deer that stares into headlights, when you tell them that you don’t live in a traditional monogamous relationship.

I am in an open relationship with an amazing woman and I am still traveling the world in search of unforgettable sexual experiences. I know what it means to get judged for the relationship model that I prefer.

As long as you and the girl you are with agree upon the relationship model you want to live in, you shouldn’t worry about what other people think about you.

Monogamy, open relationships or no relationship at all…it is your choice.

22. If I Don’t Do It Now I’ll Regret it Later

One day I will get out of my toxic relationship!

One day I will travel the world and experience incredible adventures!

One day I will overcome all my fears and seduce the women I always dream of!

For most people this magical one day will never come. Don’t make the same mistake. Do what you want to do and do it now.

23. Life is too Short to Dance with Fat Chicks

Besides achieving certain things, your main goal in life is most likely happiness and fulfillment. I already said that having women in your life is essential if you want to feel as a real man, but what’s even more important is that you have the right women in your life.

Ending up in bed or in a relationship with a girl who you are neither physically nor emotionally attracted to won’t bring you any fulfillment. Always remember life is to short to dance with the fat chicks..

24. I am Responsible for my Own Life

There is only one person who is responsible for your life and this person is you. Neither your parents, nor your teachers are responsible for your life.

You are the only person who can make yourself happy and you are the only one who can make all the important choices that either lead your life in the right direction or in the wrong direction.

25. I Always Have two Choices

You always have two choices in life. No matter which situation you are in, you can either do something to improve yourself, or you can stay the way you are.

You can either decide to learn how to seduce women and eventually end up with the girl of your dreams, or you can decide to not do anything and to waste one year after another.

All you have to do to achieve everything you want is to make a simple decision.

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