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Sunday, 17 May 2015

Online Dating Survey: Single Moms Are Finding Love 10% Faster

This Mother's Day, online dating site PlentyOfFish polled over 1000 single mothers between the ages of 19-50 with children under 18 years old.

So let's look at the online dating behaviors of single moms and what their children think of their dates. If you think being a single mom reduces your chance of finding love online, this is a misconception among many others.

This survey revealed that 44% of women dating are line are single moms and their reasons for going online and what they're looking for may surprise you. With almost 28% of single moms admitting they've been dating online for over three years, this survey states that they might not be looking for a knight in white armor.

What's exciting for single moms, it is turns out they're finding love 10% faster than women without children at home and turns out that 43% of the survey respondents said they started dating online after hearing success stories. And Does this mean you should post photos of your children in your online dating profile? As an online dating expert and dating coach, I'm not a fan of having your children appear as your primary profile photo, but believe it's important to state within the text portion of your profile that you're proud of your children (and list their ages). It turns out that an overwhelming 76% of single moms do indeed mention their children and/or post photos of them in their profiles.

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According to POF:

Like many online daters, single mothers are looking for partners they can relate to. Accordingly, they are 3.4 times more likely to date a single father than childless women are. In contrast, single moms are half as likely to date childless men as women with no children are.

But what do the kids have to say about their mom's dates?

According to POF, 63% of moms said they'd consider their child's disapproval of a potential partner as a major red flag or a deal-breaker.

Other key findings include:

53.99% said that online dating allowed them to get to know someone without sacrificing time with their kid(s).

54.98% said that with their busy schedule, there was no time to meet anyone anywhere else.

51.81% will introduce their date to their children once they are in a monogamous relationship.

1.2% are interested in meeting a clone of their ex, while 60.28% said they didn't have a type.

56.97% are dating online to find a partnership, as compared to less than 1% who are looking for financial support.

62.29% will go online whenever they can find a spare second, followed by weekday nights when their kids are asleep.

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Monday, 1 December 2014

Simple Online Dating 101 Tips

Online dating when you sit and think about is very simple. We can often over complicate things by putting to much pressure on ourselves or assuming what opposite sex is looking for in a mate that simply isn't so and therefore stressing ourselves out. Here are some good short basics to keep in mind when wading into the online dating game from Mens Fitness

Online Dating 101

1) Pick a mature (not silly or arrogant) screen name. BigMikey9inch may sound clever to you, but chances are SweetJen28 will want nothing to do with a guy who feels the need to "advertise" (particularly when you're probably closer to NotSoBigMikey4inch).

Have fun with your screen name, but avoid being vulgar or cocky. Stay away from names that denote wealth or immaturity. Choose names that are simple and easy to remember. Craig Wax, senior vice president at Match.com, recommends "coming up with a name that gives an indication of what you are all about. So, for instance, if you like to ski and like to cook, your user name could be SkiingChef. Right off the bat, you get a sense of what this person is all about." Keep in mind that this is a name that might stick as a nickname, too, so nix options like Baddabing or TeddyBearBoy.

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2) Use a high-quality photo. "A profile without a photo means one of two things to a woman: in a relationship or not so attractive," says Jane Coloccia, author of Confessions of an Online Dating Addict. She will want to see your face, so shots with sunglasses and/or baseball hats might as well not even be there. "A hat leads her to assume you have a balding problem that you are trying to hide," says Coloccia. And have someone take your picture for you—a self-portrait in the bathroom screams MySpace or desperate loneliness.

Include a current—say, within six months—head shot and a full-body shot of yourself. Step it up with a picture of you laughing. "Most often people make their decision based on the primary photo," says Wax. "At Match.com, you can upload 26 photos, so you can include a good cross section of photos to showcase your personality." Just make sure the fi rst one they see is an accurate representation of what you really look like and not how you wish you did.

3) Be clever in your profile. "Don't start out by apologizing," says Coloccia. "We don't need you to tell us that you aren't a writer or you hate writing about yourself." Let your personality shine through.

Since women are more emotional than visual, "color in the picture," counsels Coloccia, "with as many different facets of your personality as you can include." Self-deprecation and humor are always endearing ways to get noticed, but whatever you do, "avoid clichés such as, 'I like long walks on the beach and holding hands,'" advises Wax. "That's like saying, 'I like sleeping and breathing.'"

4) Stick with the truth. Typically, men lie about their height and women about their weight. Most girls will actually do the adjusting and take an inch or two off whatever height you write anyway. But don't think that means you're in the clear. If you're only 5'7'', and her profile says only over six feet need apply (or vice versa), play by the rules.

Otherwise, don't be surprised if she takes one look at you on your first date and smacks you upside your lying, little head.

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Sunday, 16 November 2014

Digital Life: How to Win at Online Dating

Digital Life: How to Win at Online Dating

I'm in my 30s, have a job and my own apartment, and now I'm looking for a long-term relationship — or at least real dates instead of hookups. I've joined a number of online dating sites, but it seems like mission impossible. What can I do to better my odds?

— Name withheld

Here's the good news: Almost 40% of singles who are "looking" have used an online dating service and a nearly a quarter of that group have met a spouse or long-term partner that way, concluded a recent Pew study. To maximize your odds, start by making sure you're on the right site for what you're seeking. For instance, OkCupid promises to "use math to get you dates. It's extremely accurate, as long as (a) you're honest, and (b) you know what you want." Then, there's Tinder, a relatively new app that matches people geographically, based entirely on their looks, with no background information. I think we all know what that means.

Next, follow these rules:

1. Be smart about your screen name. Choose a handle that says something genuine both about you and what you're seeking. Avoid names like "SexyGuy" or "HotBabe," which seem more about hooking up than getting to know someone. Use a handle that reveals something intriguing about you, like, "DCGymnast" or "FoodieInThe312." (These last two also let others know where you live – another plus).

2. Spend time on your profile. This is not a time to be lazy -- so don't just slap something together quickly. Be sure to answer all questions honestly and fill in the blanks about you and the kind of person you're seeking. Then read it back as if you were the potential date. Ask a friend to take a second look for you.

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3. Your photo matters. University brainiacs at MIT and the University of Chicago reported that women and men who post profile photos receive twice as many e-mails as those without photos. That means, make sure your face is visible and that you're smiling. Since you're looking for a romance, choose photos of yourself in casual or work dress – with your clothes on! Please, no cheating: your picture should show you within two to three years of your current age.

4: Be clear about your expectations. Don't waste time -- yours or someone else's – so say what you mean and mean what you say. (Do you really like moonlit walks on the beach, or are you more likely to be found in a bar at midnight?) Make sure you're on the same page as your new prospect.

5. Be smart. Don't give out your last name, address, or personal e-mail right away. When you're ready, start with your cell number. Don't agree to a get together until you're comfortable — and when you do, meet in a coffeehouse or some other public place. Oh, and here's one last bit of advice: First impressions really matter. According to Match.com, most guys decide within the first 15 minutes whether they'll ask for a second date. Women take about an hour. Good luck.

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Saturday, 22 June 2013

Dos and Don'ts: Best Tips For Online Dating

Once considered a creepy or nerdy way to meet people, the online dating industry is now worth more than £2bn and is no longer seen as an unacceptable way to find love.

There are even dating websites such as My Lovely Parent and My Single Friend that let you play cupid for friends and family.

For many, however, the prospect of online dating will be intimidating and, frankly, a complete mystery.

To allay these fears, HuffPost UK Lifsetyle spoke to dating experts to get the low-down on what you should do and -- more importantly -- what you shouldn't do in the online dating world.

Here is what the experts had to say:

Kate Taylor, relationship expert at match.com

Do take the time to get your profile right. Spend some time making sure your profile is as good as it can be and that it accurately reflects your personality.

Do concentrate on the written word. Make sure anything you publish on the net communicates the qualities you want to portray.

Do make your first message count. Ensure it reads like a personal message by mentioning a few things from the person’s profile and interests that caught your eye and made you want to get in touch.

Don’t misrepresent yourself on your profile. It’s best not to use old photos for your profile picture and be completely honest about your hobbies and interests.

Don't let a bad dating experience get you down.

Don’t be afraid to make the first move.

Don't do this

Liz Marie, senior editor at WeLoveDates and HuffPost UK blogger

Do accept dates with people who aren't your “type”.

Do meet first dates in a public place and always let a friend or family member know where you'll be.

Do make online dating a priority.

Don't use a selfie as your profile photo! It looks like you don't have any friends!

Don't respond to every email that you receive-unless you really want to.

Don't wait for someone you're interested in to message you first!

Don't do this either

Do be on time. Even slight lateness can set a miserable tone for the rest of the date.

Do be clean. You'd be surprised how often dates turn up without showering.

Do contribute to the conversation. It's great that you're "a good listener" but you're wrong if you think letting someone do all the talking makes for a great date.

Don't go for dinner on the first date. Once you're sitting at a table with this stranger, you're trapped until the bill comes – and they could be a very slow eater and dull to boot.

Don't arrive drunk or come from somewhere else where you've been drinking.

Don't lie on your dating profile. If you really want this to go somewhere, you'll have to be honest.

Don't do this, either

Do a little research. Before you write your profile, see what people your similar age and gender are saying about themselves.

Do remember that this is a dating site, not a job interview. Use your profile as a trailer, not the full movie.

Do actually date. Get out and meet in real life!

Don't sit idle. Aim for about ten new messages a day in order to get noticed by other users, and the site's algorithm.

Don't cut and paste. It's pretty easy to spot a generic "I send this to all the girls" message, and it won't do you any favours. Personalised messages stand out much more. and get a real dialogue going.

Don't mention how you promise you won't ever tell anyone you met online. The stigma attached to online dating is long gone. Be proud that you're being proactive in your search for love.

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Tuesday, 11 June 2013

3 Little-known Tricks to Achieve Success with Online Dating

3 Little-known Tricks to Achieve Success with Online Dating

Twenty years ago, the concept of online dating was a brand new idea. During the early years of its inception, the majority of Internet users would hesitate to plunge into the online dating pool due to fear, uncertainty, and social stigma. But, internet dating has come a long way two decades after. Today, due to the large use of social networks like Facebook and online dating sites such as Fish2Fish and Match.com, the stigma associated with online dating has nearly died down. More people are now more accepting of modern-age dating and more are completely prepared to dive into the pool of online dating despite its unpredictability. Joining an online dating site, without a doubt, has truly become a trend.

For those who are having second thoughts about joining an online dating site, the figures should speak for themselves. If you will base the reliability of internet dating on statistics, you’ll find that success stories are abundant and that a good number of online interactions (around 33 percent) led to actual dates. Roughly 20 percent of internet users met their current partner online while an estimated 17 percent of those who dated ended up marrying each other. These numbers are not bad at all, especially given all the horror stories that one hears from those who were able to try cyber dating.

If you want to spice up your ever so boring lovelife, there are many ways to do it. But, in this digital age, you should consider testing the online dating waters to increase your chances at finding the right one. Worry not, because there are over 40 million others who will be swimming with you once you decide to take the plunge. If you’re new to the online dating scene, here are some little-known tricks that should get you headed to your one true love.

First, remember that in real life, people are more likely to notice you and talk to you if you’re with a dog than if you’re just by yourself. Some recent studies have revealed that around 58 percent of males say that having a dog is like having a babe magnet in the park. On the other hand, approximately 46 percent of women say that they would stop and talk to a man holding a cute puppy. If you wish to improve your odds of finding love online, why not leverage your profile by posting some pictures of you and your dog? Man’s best friend has been proven to draw attention, so take advantage of that.

Just as your cute puppy can draw attention, so is your profile header. Most online dating sites require that you provide a short status/header message that shows up beside or under your username when seekers do searches. Since some people couldn’t come up with something creative, they end up with generic headers like, “I am your soul mate” or “Miss Perfect”. It’s extremely vital that you utilize this space to create a really compelling profile header message – something witty, funny, or interesting that will make seekers want to click on your profile and actually read it.

That picture of you and your dog is undeniably cute, but that doesn’t mean that your profile should stay frozen with that photo for six months. What many online users are not aware of is that one photo, no matter how gorgeous, can only do so much in attracting potential mates. That’s because people are interested in different looks. So, if your primary photo makes you look like a really bubbly person, consider replacing it with one that shows a different side of your personality, like your more mysterious facet. Or, even simpler, simply swap your images. Make your secondary photo your primary photo and change it every now and then for a more appealing profile. If you just switch the order of your photos, you’ll get an entirely different result.

As a firm believer of fate and destiny, what can you actually do to find that one person in the sea of million daters? Simple! Just join an online dating site, create a beautiful profile, post a picture of you and your dog, make a creative profile header, and change your profile picture once in a while. Before you know it, you’re already getting a slew of online seekers who are interested to ask you out on a date.

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