Online Date with Fish2Fish: 8 NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTIONS THAT'LL HELP YOU FIND LOVE IN 2016

"Don't start the new year by making resolutions of what not to do, turn it around and make resolutions of what you are going to do." - Susan

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8 NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTIONS THAT'LL HELP YOU FIND LOVE IN 2016

Here's a foolproof guide to finding Mr. Right in the new year!

With the year coming to a close, looking back on everything that we were (and weren't) able to accomplish with a wistful eye is par for the course. And when you're single, that feeling of resentment pretty much intensifies. Whether it's worrying over those missed connections or kicking yourself because of the one that got away, we've all had that moment where we let past mistakes manifest in our heads. But instead of wasting time thinking about what you can't change, zone in on the present. Figuring out that you need to make a change is the easy part; actually sitting down and setting aside time to do it actually sitting down and setting aside time to just do it is where things can get tricky.

So I sat down with Laurel House, YourTango Expert and author of a new book Screwing the Rules: The No-Games Guide to Love to talk about why so many people struggle with making their New Year's resolutions stick, and even got the low down on the easiest way to find love in the upcoming year.
She stressed that following all of those conventional dating "rules" won't help you in your hunt for Mr. Right. One of the most important things that stood out from our conversation with Laurel was that when it comes to finding the one, we need to take the time to just stop and think. "Think about it this way: you set the table, set the stage, created the perfect environment for love… and now you are ready to attract it. So get out of your box and open your heart."

If you're ready to jump out of your comfort zone, Laurel's New Year's resolutions are guaranteed to help you find love in the new year.

Change the way you think

When it comes to matters of the heart, we're all guilty of making excuses about why we didn't put ourselves out there. But contrary to popular belief, it isn't easier said than done. Laurel's advice?

"Trying" is a pre-emptive excuse for failure or not doing it at all. Do your best. Have zero excuses. If you don’t find success, make a midcourse correction and try a different tact. Keep at it until you do find success."

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Get A Life!

Laurel stresses that you shouldn't revolve your life around your partner. And she has a point! Forget about being the doting girlfriend and let your own personality do the talking.

Start living for yourself again by "trying one thing new every single day. Find your passion. Take up a hobby that excites you. Become excited about your career again."

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Take A Deep Look At Yourself

If you can't seem to put your finger on why you've had bad luck in the dating field, take a moment to really look at yourself. This may sound crazy but our choices tend to reflect how we feel about ourselves.

If you wouldn't date yourself, you need to start working on a "you" that you can be proud of!

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Figure Out What You Really Want

If you're really devoted to finding the perfect guy in the new year, knowing what you're looking for can make a huge difference. Laurel mentions that asking yourself these questions will put you on the right track:

What's most important to you?

Where do you stand when it comes to priorities in life? What do you stand for?

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Get Rid Of Your Baggage & Hangups!

Hanging onto past relationships definitely won't do your love life any favours. It's time to say goodbye to all of the emotional hangups and baggage (including old flames) that held you back in 2014 so you can look forward to a better 2015.

If the relationship didn't impact your life in a positive way, it's not worth holding onto. And if you have a persistent ex, this 12-step program will help you keep your sanity and move on.

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Try Something New!

Laurel says that you should put yourself out there "instead of going to the bar where 'everyone knows your name." And she's right!

How can you expect to snag the guy who's right for you if you haven't introduced yourself to him first?

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Be Confident!

Ladies, confidence is sexy! Seriously, there's nothing better than a girl who knows what she wants and also knows her worth, which is why Laurel says it's imperative that your date knows "there truly are plenty of fish in the sea and you can easily pull another guy just as great or better than he is if need be." This has nothing to do with being arrogant; it's all about being confident in yourself.