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12 Things Guys Like in a Girl besides Her Appearance

Looks matter, but it’s not everything. Find out what those 12 things are that all guys desire and like in a girl besides her appearance to fall for her.

Appearances play a big part in physical attraction.

Your looks are almost always one of the first things a guy would notice about you.

Well, of course, some guys would even claim that they look at a girl’s face, boobs and butt before they look for anything else.

If you’ve got a great physique and looks to match, you’ll definitely get any guy’s attention.

But here’s the thing, your looks could get a guy’s attention for a few seconds, but that’s all the advantage you can get with appearances!

Things guys notice in a girl beyond looks

If you want a catch a guy’s eye beyond just mere appearances, and get him interested in you even though there are several girls around you, all you need to focus on are the little things that always draws a guy.

If you play your cards right, you’d be able to grab any guy’s attention and get him to notice you within seconds, and make him fall for you in minutes!

12 things guys like in a girl besides her appearance

You don’t really need to focus a lot on appearances, but then again, having a great body and a cute face will only make the game of attracting guys a lot easier for you. But beyond physical attraction, keep these 12 perfect girl traits in mind. As long as you use these things to your advantage, you’ll surely catch all the eyes you want to catch in no time!

#1 Femininity. Femininity is the greatest asset of every girl. And it’s a trait that no masculine guy can resist. Contrary to the belief of many girls, don’t ever assume that displaying your femininity is a sign of weakness or the weaker sex. You can be feminine and girly, and still in control of every situation.

#2 Playfulness. In every successful relationship, playfulness is a trait that plays a big part in it. Be a happy and fun loving girl who’s alive and the centre of attention in her world. Guys love a girl who is playful and cheerful. And they absolutely hate girls who are constantly stressed or unhappy and depressed. Laugh, have a sense of humour and tease the guy you like. He’ll be smitten by you in no time!

#3 Expressions. A pretty face is blank and meaningless without its expressions. Make eye contact with the guy as you talk to him. Smile mischievously when you say something naughty, roll your eyes when he acts like an idiot, and smile genuinely when you’re talking to him. The way you smile, use your eyes and your voice to express yourself will leave him mesmerised by you.

Just think of Rachel McAdams and the way she uses her voice and her expressions while talking. She’s cute, funny and oh-so-sexy, isn’t she?

#4 Self esteem. Fall in love with who you are, and respect yourself for the person you are. Self respect and self worth play a big part in your attitude towards the world, and the way the world sees you. Focus on your talents and trust your intuition. Don’t change who you are, unless you think you can be a better person. Believe in yourself, and you won’t put yourself down in front of a guy just to impress him.

#5 Intelligence. Men who are secure about themselves *the only kind of guys you should date!* don’t feel threatened by a woman who’s intelligent and aware of the world. In fact, guys love a girl who can have an intelligent conversation with them about worldly affairs.

You can look pretty and catch his eye, but if you can’t hold onto a conversation with him, he’d just look at you as his arm candy and not someone he can fall in love with. But you need to keep this in mind, use your intelligence in a cooperative manner, not in a competitive way or that would just lead to ego clashes and angry confrontations. 

#6 Self reliance. Guys want to feel like the protectors, and they want to take care of their woman. It’s what evolution has taught them. When you make a guy feel like you need him, he falls more in love with you. But at the same time, there’s a thin line between making him feel wanted and coming across as a clingy girlfriend.

Be independent and in control of your own life. Ask a guy for help when he’s around, but when you’re on your own, let this guy see that you’re capable of running your own life without his help. It’ll draw him closer to you and make him want to be more involved in your life. 

#7 Confidence. Your confidence shows off who you are, and just how much you control your own life. If you want to impress a guy, let him see you as a girl who truly knows just how good she is. Don’t be a doormat or accept anything he says just to please him.

#8 Your attitude. Guys are instantly attracted to kindness. And beyond mere physical traits, how kind and considerate a girl is plays a big part in the game of attraction. Do you consider yourself to be a kind person, or one who’s opinionated and arrogant? If the world sees you as arrogant, perhaps it’s time you let them see your kinder side. The world will love you for it.

#9 Fragrance. This is a sneaky little tip that can work wonders for you. Smell great around the guy you’re trying to impress. Each time he gets a waft of your fragrance as you walk past him or move your hands while gesticulating something, he’ll feel just a little weaker, and a lot more attracted to you! 

#10 Inner beauty. You may think a guy falls in love with a girl based on her physical appearances. But truth be told, he falls in love with the projection of what the girl feels about herself. The glow of sex appeal and beauty comes from within. If you don’t feel pretty when you look into the mirror, how can you expect others to find you attractive? It only takes a minute or less for inner beauty to kick in and work its magic when you’re talking to a guy.

While talking to some guy for the first time, did it ever feel like he was more attractive than you initially thought as soon as you started talking to him? Or on the other hand, have you spoken to a guy who seemed like he was really good looking until you started talking to him, and he started to progressively get worse looking until you just weren’t interested in talking to him anymore? That’s inner beauty, and it’s something everyone notices in you even if you don’t see it yourself.

#11 Healthy glow. Girls with that healthy, glowing skin always look more attractive than all the other girls, even if they don’t have a perfect figure. Eat healthy and try to keep yourself stress free, and look after your skin. And most importantly, work out. Sweating during a regular workout will give your skin a more flushed and radiant appearance. And it’ll work wonders when you’re staring at a guy from across the room.

#12 Zest for life. Do you love life? Do you think you’re spontaneous and alive? Guys love a girl who’s full of boundless energy and always ready for a new adventure. If a guy stares at a group of girls, the first one that catches his eye and interests him is the one who is energetic and fun. Doesn’t that mean something?!

Physical attractiveness definitely does play a part in attraction. But if you want to hold his attention beyond the first glance, keep these 12 things guys like in a girl besides her appearance in mind. It’ll definitely do more than just get you a second glance!

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How to Attract Men: 15 Ways

How to Attract Men: 15 Ways

Every woman wants to be noticed. If you’re looking for the best ways to attract men, we’ve got you covered. Here is a list of 15 great ways to capture the attention of the entire room- without being sleazy or obnoxious.

1. Confidence is Key

You’ve probably heard this over a million times, but only because it’s the absolute truth: there is nothing more attractive than confidence. Even if you think your nose is larger than it should be or your thighs aren’t as toned as you’d like, nobody will notice if you walk into the room and own it. They won’t see your flaws, only your shining confidence that leaves you with a smile on your face. And trust me, men won’t notice anything wrong about you. They’ll be too busy checking out all of your best features as you strut proudly across the floor. Ladies, wherever you go and whoever you’re with, always bring your confidence with you. It’s truly a life changer and the number ONE way to attract a man.

2. Dress Up Your Figure

We all have something we love about ourselves. Maybe you’ve got a set of perfectly perky breasts that completes a low cut v-neck magnificently or maybe you’ve got a gorgeously flat stomach that craves a crop top. Whatever it is, buy and wear clothes that accentuate your good qualities while downplaying the others. This will not only help grab men’s attention, but also give you an extra boost of confidence.

3. Keep it Classy 

However, just because you have a butt like Kim Kardashian, it doesn’t mean you should walk around in the smallest booty shorts you can find. Surely that might get you some attention from the guys, but it will be the wrong type of attention that gets you nowhere in the long run. When picking out your clothes, remember to keep it classy, cute, and modest. You know the old term “leave something to the imagination”. That phrase still holds true today and should be something we all keep in mind during our shopping trips. To help you out, here’s a few examples of clothes men absolutely love:

Anything form fitting, such as a body contouring dress.

-Jeans that fit well. (doesn’t have to be skinny jeans, but nothing that’s baggy or loose).

-Summer skirts and dresses that show some leg.

-High heels no taller than 4 inches.

4. The Right Amount of Makeup

A lot of girls think you need to pack on the makeup. Foundation, concealer, blush, powder, eyeliner, mascara- the list goes on and on. But when you ask a man what they is the most attractive, almost any guy will tell you less is more. They want to see your natural beauty, not some fake, drawn on face women think is perfection. Men don’t want plastic perfection. They want a real woman. Keep your makeup to a minimum, and try to do the natural look as much as possible. Dress up your makeup when the time is right, for instance hot red lipstick with your tiny black dress on date night in the city.

5. A Beautiful Scent

Nothing captures a man’s attention more than a beautiful scent, right? If you really want to know how to attract a man, spray on some of your best smelling perfume and they’ll be drawn to your delicious scent. Plus it makes for a great conversation starter. He might just want to get closer to you and know a bit more about what you are wearing…and who you are.

6. A Smile Goes a Long Way

So we have two of the biggest things listed already: confidence and perfume. But what’s another important piece of the puzzle? A smile. Men are incredibly attracted to a smiling woman and love when a lady can light up the room just with a simple look like this. If you are trying to attract a specific man around you, make sure you flash him plenty of smiles, whether they are the flirty smiles with teasing eyes or full fledged big smiles that show you’re interested.

7. Make Eye Contact

The eyes are incredibly powerful, and as some say, are the windows to the soul. And that’s why making elongated eye contact with the man you are interested in is so heavily important. However, you don’t just want to stare at him in a creepy way for several minutes. When it comes to eye contact, make it sensual. Give him the ‘I want you’ seductive eye contact that will pull him in. You’d be surprised how quickly a man will run over to greet you just by flashing him your eyes every now and then. He won’t be able to look away from those mysterious brown eyes, those elegant emerald green eyes, or those passionate blue ones.

8 Touchy Flirty

Let’s say you’re talking to a guy and he says some silly joke. You giggle a bit and touch his arm and say, “You’re so funny”. That simple little touch of the arm- that, my friends, drives men absolutely insane. They love it, and they can’t get enough of it. Your soft touch against their skin sends shivers down their spine and makes their stomachs turn into a butterfly factory. Ladies, if you want to attract a man (and give him a bit of nervous and intrigued chills in the meantime), do a bit of playful touching while talking and flirting. It’s simply a recipe for success.

9. Be Easy-Going and Natural

This could go both ways. After all, who wants to hold a conversation with someone who is frigid and nervous? This only leads to an awkward time that both parties wish they could get out of. If you want to attract him AND keep his attention, be relaxed and easy going. Be completely calm during your interaction with the guy, even if you feel like you are about to explode on the inside. This easy-going and natural nature will come across as confidence to him, which will in turn intrigue him and make him attracted to you. If the conversation flows easily, why would he want to stop it?

10. Show Him Your Silly Side

Men love it- and I mean LOVE it- when a woman can make them smile. It’s one of those things that every guy looks for, and once they find it they cherish it like gold. It’s one of the most attractive things you can do, and is definitely something you should do often. Yes, it’s okay and completely normal to have serious conversations. But during casual conversations, you should certainly have a silly joke or a funny remark to make him smile. He’ll enjoy it so much he won’t want to stop talking to you!

11. ..And Your Smart, Sophisticated Side

On the other hand, don’t be silly 100 percent of the time. This can come across as annoying and immature. Sure you want to make him laugh every now and then, but just as you want to make him laugh, you should also want to make him think. Show him your intelligent side. After all, you are a sophisticated woman with an education under your belt, and no man wants to be with a ditzy girl that doesn’t know a thing. Show him you are a smart girl with her head on her shoulders and he’ll be instantly drawn to you.

12. Don’t Be Needy

You know those guys who are constantly trying to talk to you, bugging you when to hang out, and sad when they can’t see you for more than 3 hours? Yeah, me too. And nobody likes that type of person. When it comes to attracting men, one thing is for sure: don’t be needy. Needy personalities are a HUGE turn off for men. They want a woman who is secure in herself and doesn’t need a man to be happy. And if you’re begging for his attention, you appear as just the opposite. Show him you’re an independent woman who would love to have him around, but doesn’t necessarily need him to survive- it’ll keep him intrigued and wanting you even more.

13. Be Positive

Have you ever tried to hold a conversation with someone who is constantly negative? They are mad when it’s sunny, mad when it’s raining. They have a negative comment about every movie you watch, and never want to hang out with anyone because they are annoying or boring. We all know those people, and let’s face it: we don’t like hanging out with them, let alone talking to them. That being said, how do you think you are supposed to attract a man with all that negativity? Sure some things must have a negative reaction. But for the most part, you should be positive and uplifting. Men are drawn to an uplifting lady as she will be able to encourage him and uplift him in the future (if a relationship does transpire). This all roots back to the smile: even when you’re having a bad day, keep a smile on your face and try to be positive. It really works wonders!

14. Show Signs of Interest

If you don’t act interested, why would any man want to come and talk to you, let alone keep a conversation going with you? There are many different ways to act interested in another person. Here are some simple ways to show signs of interest:

-Make plenty of eye contact, both before and during conversation. Just remember to break contact every now and then to avoid looking creepy.

-Lean in forward, showing that you are interested and engaged in the conversation. Sitting back in your chair or standing away from someone shows that you are not interested in the conversation at hand- and that’s what we are trying to avoid.

-Smile plenty. Before the conversation, flash him several smiles. During the conversation, try to keep a small smile on your face at all times and laugh at his jokes.

-During the conversation, ask questions and put in your comments as much as possible. This shows that you are listening to him and want to be a part of the conversation. It also shows that you have a mind of your own and have your own set of thoughts and opinions about different topics.

-Going back to our touchy flirty tip, again I remind you to do plenty of soft touching during the conversation. This is a very obvious sign you are interested in him and enjoy getting close to him.

15. Embrace Your Feminine Side

Men like cute, flirty, and feminine girls. Why? Because they are supposed to be the strong ones. They are supposed to be manly and aggressive. They are supposed to be the big protectors that guard dainty woman from danger. It is engraved in their minds, and has been since the early days. You don’t have to act like a hopeless, frail person to grab a man’s attention. You should, however, embrace your dainty and feminine side as much as possible. For instance, even if you could open that jar of pickles, just ask the man to do it anyways. They love it. Even if you’re a kick boxer and could easily take out any man, wear a cute dress and a lovely smile in public to attract men.

It’s easier than you think to attract a man. Enter the room with a beautiful smile on your face, always stay positive, and don’t forget to dress yourself up with cute clothes and a dash of amazing smelling perfumes. Keep the conversation going by acting interested, being silly every once and awhile, and showing him you are a elegant, sophisticated, and totally adorable woman who simply can’t be resisted.

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Women Don’t Wear Makeup To Impress Men

by Chelsea Fagan

Amongst the various comments I receive on my gender-centric articles — aside from my personal favorites, “What a cunt” and “You just need to find a good man” — I am often told (with what I like to imagine are good intentions) that I should just stop caring what men think when it comes to dressing up. The idea, it seems, is that women are mostly keeping a man’s opinion in mind when they put on their makeup, style their hair, or wear an attractive outfit. And beyond all of the women who aren’t even interested in men sexually in the first place (or is dressing for another woman’s eye an equal sin?), few assertions about women’s inner workings could be further from the truth.

I recently addressed the idea that there is a firm reward system in place for women who put themselves together in a feminine, clean, well-styled way. And while there are certainly positives in terms of male sexual or romantic attention, the encouragement we face to look more “put together” extends far beyond how we are perceived in the dating market. Going to work with natural hair, a bare face, and simple clothes is often perceived as inherently unprofessional, and part of our preparation for the workplace includes transforming ourselves to fit a more strictly defined standard of beauty. Our voices are palpably dismissed or passed over when they are not accompanied by the kind of face that people are eager to look at, or the kind of style which is just the right level of palatably feminine.

There are clear pressures to be beautiful in a way that could easily be interpreted as catering to the male gaze, which actually have nothing to do with attracting a mate. Many of our beauty ideals were indeed formed in the interest of being sexually attractive, but now are deeply reinforced everywhere from strangers’ reactions on the street to opportunities at the workplace. Often, the act of “dressing up” for a woman is merely an act of assimilation and resignation to the idea that she has to do so to get ahead.She cannot go into a boardroom, or a meeting at her bank, or an open house to purchase some property unless she is looking aesthetically pleasing in just the right way. Many of them would choose to be far more natural if they had the option, but they know that the way they are perceived hinges enormously on how much effort they put into their appearance.

Of course, there are also women who, like myself, simply enjoy getting dolled up. I rarely leave the house without styled hair, a little strategic makeup, and a relatively coordinated outfit. However, I work at home, I rarely have important meetings that require looking a certain way, and I am not in the market for finding a date. (Hate to disappoint you, sexist commenters, but my beliefs about my gender have nothing to do with the boyfriend I’ve had for years now. I am not simply waiting for that one good penis to convert me from all of my whiny, dick-needing ideas.) I would likely face no immediate repercussions from being more casual. And no matter how many partners have told me that they are either completely neutral about how dressed-up I am, or even prefer me more natural, I will never give up on wanting to look like a Pretty Pretty Princess just for myself.

Why do I do it? Why put in the effort if it’s not going to immediately benefit me in some tangible way? Because it makes me feel fucking awesome! I literally feel like a Princess, and enjoy it just as much as I did when I was a little girl putting on my mom’s dresses and lipstick and bouncing on her bed in front of the mirror. I like experimenting with different looks, trying new things, and making myself feel like a new person with a few simple changes of style. It’s fun, and a great way to express myself. Sure, it’s nice hearing people compliment me on something, but I still feel just as good about it even when I don’t run into anyone. I sometimes get dressed up when I’m staying home — it’s raining out, and I’m feeling kind of down, why not put a fun outfit together as a quick pick-me-up?

And that might be what is most threatening of all in all of this. Whether it is the woman who gets dressed nicely to go out because she knows that her career options might be hindered if she were perceived as “less professional,” or it’s the woman who puts on beautiful clothes and makeup simply because it makes her feel good about herself, none of this has to do with what a man thinks about her body. It is so much more simple to say, “Stop caring what a man thinks, ladies, you’re beautiful as you are,” than to address all of the myriad reasons why that likely doesn’t apply to her. It allows you to still wield that important role of “Telling a woman what to do with herself because you assume to know the reasoning behind her actions,” and allows you to feel like a savior without actually having to address any of the real societal structures that are causing the problem in the first place.

Assuming that a woman is fretting over a man when she gets dressed in the morning is condescending at best, dangerously sexist at worst. And it ascribes a huge part of her autonomy to the passing interest of an imaginary man that she likely doesn’t care about in the least. But it’s easy to do, because it perpetuates the perception of us as flighty, desperate girls who are simply breathless over a man’s approval on her appearance. To accept the idea that makeup might never have been about a man in the first place — that means you actually have to address femininity as something owned wholly by the woman herself, and that is far more unpleasantly complicated.

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Is Equality in Marriage a Sexual Turn-Off?

Psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb's NY Times Magazine article, "Does a More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex?" shares sociological studies examining “Egalitarianism, Housework and Sexual Frequency in Marriage,” which posit that as couples become equal breadwinners and caregivers, the satisfaction they gain from sharing the chores is somehow dampening their desire for each other.  One study claims: “The less gender differentiation, the less sexual desire.” In other words, in an attempt to be gender-neutral, we may have become gender-neutered."  Is she right?

If a man helps me fold the sheets, does that negate his manhood?  Nonsense.

Here is the, ahem, thrust of Gottlieb's argument:

Marriage is hardly known for being an aphrodisiac, of course, but [this is] referring to a particularly modern state of marital affairs. Today, according to census data, in 64 percent of U.S. marriages with children under 18, both husband and wife work. There’s more gender-fluidity when it comes to who brings in the money, who does the laundry and dishes, who drives the car pool and braids the kids’ hair, even who owns the home. A vast majority of adults under 30 in this country say that this is a good thing, according to a Pew Research Center survey: They aspire to what’s known in the social sciences as an egalitarian marriage, meaning that both spouses work and take care of the house and that the relationship is built on equal power, shared interests and friendship. But the very qualities that lead to greater emotional satisfaction in peer marriages, as one sociologist calls them, may be having an unexpectedly negative impact on these couples’ sex lives.

The "Egalitarian" study found that "if men did all of what the researchers characterized as feminine chores like folding laundry, cooking or vacuuming — the kinds of things many women say they want their husbands to do — then couples had sex 1.5 fewer times per month than those with husbands who did what were considered masculine chores, like taking out the trash or fixing the car."

Image: Eric Chan via Flickr

Ok. So did a couple of guys who were frustrated with being asked to do the dishes get together and come up with this one?  And do we know the "1.5" number didn't have other mitigating factors attached to it?

As to what duties are an aphrodisiac, if one requires the performance of certain chores to turn you on, might I suggest gardening – all that digging around in the dirt with a trowel might be a little more primal…

So if a wife just sees her husband totin' that barge and liftin' that bale, he'll automatically become sexier?

He'll be sweatier, that's for sure.

Not every man with his shirt off looks like Ryan Reynolds splitting logs in the front yard.

Ms. Gottlieb admits that "correlations don’t establish causation, and especially when it comes to sex, there’s always a risk of reporting bias and selective sampling, not to mention the mood of a subject at the time of the survey."  i.e., "was the wife standing in front of garbage that had not been taken out."

The quoted study was published last year, but uses data compiled in the 1990s.  While attitudes have changed in 20 years, Gottlieb maintains her patients offered similar complaints, even though the sharing of child care and housework "makes a woman feel both closer to a man and happier with him."

Ms. Gottlieb shared that a female patient of hers wasn't turned on by her husband doing the ironing.

Ironing?  Hubba hubba!  I'm really turned on because it means I don’t have to do it.

If anyone wants to argue that ironing is woman's work, they ought to watch a military man iron his shirt.  Nobody irons or folds better than a man in uniform and I'd hardly argue any one of them are "feminized".

And by the way, our vacuum cleaner is heavy as hell so I appreciate it when my husband, who outweighs me by 90 pounds, schleps that thing around.  I find that mighty masculine.

Clearly, stereotypes are useless.  Isn't it also possible that in today's world, couples are working so hard to put the roof over their heads, take care of the kids, and/or an elderly parent, walk the dog, fix the roof, etc., that they're just bloody exhausted.  We have also become phone monkeys with entirely too much technology at our disposal that becomes a mindless balm and distraction from the day, encouraging ruts that are all too easy to get into.

To argue that a new division of labor in the home is causing men and women to somehow become homogenized and androgenous discounts the value of their happiness in the activities they share together.

Chopping salad in the kitchen with hubby is an excuse to flirt, razz one another and canoodle.  A lot more enticing a proposition than his sitting in the barc-a-lounger shouting 'bring me a beer, honey' while I stand in the kitchen cooking by myself – after we've both worked all day.  That's most definitely not an aphrodisiac.

Shared chores means the crap gets done faster, leaving a couple more time to go out and play.  Or stay in.  Besides which, unless a woman is preparing dinner in Victoria's Secret underoos, I doubt her doing classically "feminine" chores will drive her husband to distraction either, so I dispute that men and women maintaining stereotyped roles in the home is going to affect how they view each other sexually.

This study also indicates that men prioritize the erotic and women do not.  Say it with me:  Stereotype.   There are many factors, including perhaps a lack of communication or habits formed over a long union which are just as likely to cause the kind of bland erotic life on which Gottlieb reports.

Ms. Gottlieb also states the following:

Is the trade-off of egalitarian marriage necessarily less sexual heat? It’s possible that the sexual scripts we currently follow will evolve along with our marital arrangements so that sameness becomes sexy. Regardless, more people marrying today are choosing egalitarian setups for the many other benefits they offer. If every sexual era is unhappy in its own way, it may be that we will begin to think of the challenges of egalitarian marriages less as drawbacks and more like, well, life, with its inherent limitations on how exciting any particular aspect can be.

I would also disagree that being equal partners in marriage means you are turning into mirror images of each other.  I don't see drawbacks, but much greater fulfillment for both.  Equal partners experience less stress knowing the weight is carried on both their shoulders.  Equality does not equal "sameness."  In a comfortable, healthy relationship, partners are allowed flexible roles.  In any marriage, one person may be stronger at a certain task, though one partner pinch hitting for the other when needed is much appreciated.  No two people can maintain a successful union if they are each trapped into wearing the same hat all the time.

She also notes that "American couples who share breadwinning and household duties are less likely to divorce."  If some couples still have typical ideas of masculinity and femininity, cannot there be a differentiation between the romantic and the practical?

The studies Ms. Gottlieb cites argue that much is lost if couples are not able to maintain a "me Tarzan, you Jane" posture.  I would argue that the decision to offer each other that permission (or any fantasy you can name) is still plenty available.  Whether or not their relationship will support it has nothing to do with who is doing the laundry.

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