Showing posts with label positive attitude. Show all posts
Showing posts with label positive attitude. Show all posts

Saturday, 11 July 2015

How to Attract Men: 15 Ways


How to Attract Men: 15 Ways


Every woman wants to be noticed. If you’re looking for the best ways to attract men, we’ve got you covered. Here is a list of 15 great ways to capture the attention of the entire room- without being sleazy or obnoxious.

1. Confidence is Key


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You’ve probably heard this over a million times, but only because it’s the absolute truth: there is nothing more attractive than confidence. Even if you think your nose is larger than it should be or your thighs aren’t as toned as you’d like, nobody will notice if you walk into the room and own it. They won’t see your flaws, only your shining confidence that leaves you with a smile on your face. And trust me, men won’t notice anything wrong about you. They’ll be too busy checking out all of your best features as you strut proudly across the floor. Ladies, wherever you go and whoever you’re with, always bring your confidence with you. It’s truly a life changer and the number ONE way to attract a man.


2. Dress Up Your Figure



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We all have something we love about ourselves. Maybe you’ve got a set of perfectly perky breasts that completes a low cut v-neck magnificently or maybe you’ve got a gorgeously flat stomach that craves a crop top. Whatever it is, buy and wear clothes that accentuate your good qualities while downplaying the others. This will not only help grab men’s attention, but also give you an extra boost of confidence.


3. Keep it Classy 


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However, just because you have a butt like Kim Kardashian, it doesn’t mean you should walk around in the smallest booty shorts you can find. Surely that might get you some attention from the guys, but it will be the wrong type of attention that gets you nowhere in the long run. When picking out your clothes, remember to keep it classy, cute, and modest. You know the old term “leave something to the imagination”. That phrase still holds true today and should be something we all keep in mind during our shopping trips. To help you out, here’s a few examples of clothes men absolutely love:
Anything form fitting, such as a body contouring dress.
-Jeans that fit well. (doesn’t have to be skinny jeans, but nothing that’s baggy or loose).
-Summer skirts and dresses that show some leg.
-High heels no taller than 4 inches.


4. The Right Amount of Makeup


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A lot of girls think you need to pack on the makeup. Foundation, concealer, blush, powder, eyeliner, mascara- the list goes on and on. But when you ask a man what they is the most attractive, almost any guy will tell you less is more. They want to see your natural beauty, not some fake, drawn on face women think is perfection. Men don’t want plastic perfection. They want a real woman. Keep your makeup to a minimum, and try to do the natural look as much as possible. Dress up your makeup when the time is right, for instance hot red lipstick with your tiny black dress on date night in the city.


5. A Beautiful Scent


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Nothing captures a man’s attention more than a beautiful scent, right? If you really want to know how to attract a man, spray on some of your best smelling perfume and they’ll be drawn to your delicious scent. Plus it makes for a great conversation starter. He might just want to get closer to you and know a bit more about what you are wearing…and who you are.


6. A Smile Goes a Long Way



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So we have two of the biggest things listed already: confidence and perfume. But what’s another important piece of the puzzle? A smile. Men are incredibly attracted to a smiling woman and love when a lady can light up the room just with a simple look like this. If you are trying to attract a specific man around you, make sure you flash him plenty of smiles, whether they are the flirty smiles with teasing eyes or full fledged big smiles that show you’re interested.


7. Make Eye Contact


The eyes are incredibly powerful, and as some say, are the windows to the soul. And that’s why making elongated eye contact with the man you are interested in is so heavily important. However, you don’t just want to stare at him in a creepy way for several minutes. When it comes to eye contact, make it sensual. Give him the ‘I want you’ seductive eye contact that will pull him in. You’d be surprised how quickly a man will run over to greet you just by flashing him your eyes every now and then. He won’t be able to look away from those mysterious brown eyes, those elegant emerald green eyes, or those passionate blue ones.

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8 Touchy Flirty

Let’s say you’re talking to a guy and he says some silly joke. You giggle a bit and touch his arm and say, “You’re so funny”. That simple little touch of the arm- that, my friends, drives men absolutely insane. They love it, and they can’t get enough of it. Your soft touch against their skin sends shivers down their spine and makes their stomachs turn into a butterfly factory. Ladies, if you want to attract a man (and give him a bit of nervous and intrigued chills in the meantime), do a bit of playful touching while talking and flirting. It’s simply a recipe for success.

9. Be Easy-Going and Natural


This could go both ways. After all, who wants to hold a conversation with someone who is frigid and nervous? This only leads to an awkward time that both parties wish they could get out of. If you want to attract him AND keep his attention, be relaxed and easy going. Be completely calm during your interaction with the guy, even if you feel like you are about to explode on the inside. This easy-going and natural nature will come across as confidence to him, which will in turn intrigue him and make him attracted to you. If the conversation flows easily, why would he want to stop it?

10. Show Him Your Silly Side


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Men love it- and I mean LOVE it- when a woman can make them smile. It’s one of those things that every guy looks for, and once they find it they cherish it like gold. It’s one of the most attractive things you can do, and is definitely something you should do often. Yes, it’s okay and completely normal to have serious conversations. But during casual conversations, you should certainly have a silly joke or a funny remark to make him smile. He’ll enjoy it so much he won’t want to stop talking to you!


11. ..And Your Smart, Sophisticated Side



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On the other hand, don’t be silly 100 percent of the time. This can come across as annoying and immature. Sure you want to make him laugh every now and then, but just as you want to make him laugh, you should also want to make him think. Show him your intelligent side. After all, you are a sophisticated woman with an education under your belt, and no man wants to be with a ditzy girl that doesn’t know a thing. Show him you are a smart girl with her head on her shoulders and he’ll be instantly drawn to you.

12. Don’t Be Needy


You know those guys who are constantly trying to talk to you, bugging you when to hang out, and sad when they can’t see you for more than 3 hours? Yeah, me too. And nobody likes that type of person. When it comes to attracting men, one thing is for sure: don’t be needy. Needy personalities are a HUGE turn off for men. They want a woman who is secure in herself and doesn’t need a man to be happy. And if you’re begging for his attention, you appear as just the opposite. Show him you’re an independent woman who would love to have him around, but doesn’t necessarily need him to survive- it’ll keep him intrigued and wanting you even more.


13. Be Positive


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Have you ever tried to hold a conversation with someone who is constantly negative? They are mad when it’s sunny, mad when it’s raining. They have a negative comment about every movie you watch, and never want to hang out with anyone because they are annoying or boring. We all know those people, and let’s face it: we don’t like hanging out with them, let alone talking to them. That being said, how do you think you are supposed to attract a man with all that negativity? Sure some things must have a negative reaction. But for the most part, you should be positive and uplifting. Men are drawn to an uplifting lady as she will be able to encourage him and uplift him in the future (if a relationship does transpire). This all roots back to the smile: even when you’re having a bad day, keep a smile on your face and try to be positive. It really works wonders!

14. Show Signs of Interest


If you don’t act interested, why would any man want to come and talk to you, let alone keep a conversation going with you? There are many different ways to act interested in another person. Here are some simple ways to show signs of interest:
-Make plenty of eye contact, both before and during conversation. Just remember to break contact every now and then to avoid looking creepy.
-Lean in forward, showing that you are interested and engaged in the conversation. Sitting back in your chair or standing away from someone shows that you are not interested in the conversation at hand- and that’s what we are trying to avoid.
-Smile plenty. Before the conversation, flash him several smiles. During the conversation, try to keep a small smile on your face at all times and laugh at his jokes.
-During the conversation, ask questions and put in your comments as much as possible. This shows that you are listening to him and want to be a part of the conversation. It also shows that you have a mind of your own and have your own set of thoughts and opinions about different topics.
-Going back to our touchy flirty tip, again I remind you to do plenty of soft touching during the conversation. This is a very obvious sign you are interested in him and enjoy getting close to him.

15. Embrace Your Feminine Side



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Men like cute, flirty, and feminine girls. Why? Because they are supposed to be the strong ones. They are supposed to be manly and aggressive. They are supposed to be the big protectors that guard dainty woman from danger. It is engraved in their minds, and has been since the early days. You don’t have to act like a hopeless, frail person to grab a man’s attention. You should, however, embrace your dainty and feminine side as much as possible. For instance, even if you could open that jar of pickles, just ask the man to do it anyways. They love it. Even if you’re a kick boxer and could easily take out any man, wear a cute dress and a lovely smile in public to attract men.

It’s easier than you think to attract a man. Enter the room with a beautiful smile on your face, always stay positive, and don’t forget to dress yourself up with cute clothes and a dash of amazing smelling perfumes. Keep the conversation going by acting interested, being silly every once and awhile, and showing him you are a elegant, sophisticated, and totally adorable woman who simply can’t be resisted.
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        Saturday, 10 August 2013

        How to Stack the Deck in Your Favour When Dating Online

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        In a couple of previous blogs I got some very interesting comments extolling the dangers of online dating and how dating online couldn't be trusted and how wrong it was...also what was more interesting was the response to another blog which I posted suggesting approaching dating with the right attitude, where a particular commenter argued why there was any need to change.


        This is interesting to me because one of the things that I have a strong interest in is "personal development". I have learned from books, course, common sense and personal experience that attitude is everything. In otherwords if you want to something to change then you have to do something different than before. In fact there are 2 statements that were told to me and that is:

        1. you can't solve a problem with the same thinking that got you into the problem in the first place
        2. the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.
        Now to some of you the above statements are obvious but please still remember them as you go about your day or when you think about an issue you have in front of you. Not just to do with dating either.

        My story is I started dating again 18 months ago last year, I was a little surprised by how simple dating sites now were. Also I was surprised at how little help there was on these sites to help people use them effectively to get dates. I had previously been under the impression it was all "done for you" and that you just told them what you wanted and they delivered a list to you and you just got the girls on a chat or emailed them and did your thing. Well that was my experience with the site I'd selected anyway.

        New Approach

        I was excited but I also knew from bitter experience from the relationship that had just ended (interracial) what I didn't want. I believe that angle of approach worked out to be an advantage because as long as the connection I made didn't "feel" like it was x, y and z or going in that direction then it was a good start. On the list of what I didn't wants wasn't anything to do with beauty, or size or skin colour to give you some idea, it was all do with the attitude and respect and values they had in relating to me. I knew that looks would come into it but as you'll see from the 3 states or outcomes from making a connection that wasn't something to worry about.


        I used the ideas here and they worked. Yes, within 3 month after signing up with a dating site I met a girl and after 1 year we were living together, enjoying and appreciating one another. She was physically the opposite of me.  Starting with the fact I'm black and she is Irish and white. I'm slim she's not so slim, I'm 1.75m and she is about 1.5m tall but we communicated beautifully and it just worked. Although we aren’t together now, that initial connection did mean something as we still continue to text and communicate to this day.



        Right let’s get down to what I believe is an effective angle of approach in dating, as I said earlier the date site I was on was not very helpful at all, they just kind of left you to it and you had to figure it out for yourself. I know some people found this frustrating and even quit the site looking for greener pastures on another date site that was better and more expensive. They got frustrated there too. I believe the reason was is that their attitude never changed and so they did the same thing that they did on the first site, on the second site and got the same results...sound familiar?


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        Here's what I learned 

         
        All dating sites are pretty much the same. In fact a lot of them use the same databases hence my girlfriend wasn't actually on my dating site at all but was obviously fishing in the same lake or database when we met.
          
        You have to be honest and positive in everything you post on the site, which includes your profile, your correspondence with others as well as your "dating diary" entries. Yes, our site had somewhere you could post things for others to read.
         
         
         

        There is No Try

         

        What you give is what you get. If you sat round the outside and waited for a night on a white horse to arrive that’s all you would ever do...wait! Those that had the most fun acted and did something. I saw people older than myself having a great time sharing funny stories and jokes everyday on the dating diaries. I also saw a few people simply moaning every day and that's all they ever did. Crazy really as they diary could only be read by guys and not fellow girls so they just came across as difficult and to be avoided - Which is probably exactly what happened to them until they quit.
          
        The big idea of a dating site is to arrange face to face meetings with people that you felt you might have a good connection with. Again this probably sounds obvious. But I was out having fun with almost a date a week (no it wasn't me, I was always asked by girls) I would be asked by girls if I'd like to meet them after they'd chatted and even talked on the phone to me for a time.
          
        Here's the thing though, I would more often than not say yes, and the other thing which I think was smart, was that I always showed up and as best I could, on-time too. Because my attitude was good and positive in all the correspondence I’d had with all girls, in the end I would was building friendships with lots of women I considered friends. Some would ask my opinion on their situation.
         

        Release Your Inner Goddess

        One woman I recall had been chatting with a younger guy for months but never got to have a date with him for one reason or another. I told her carefully that I get the feeling that she didn't join the dating site for "SEXting" she joined because she wanted to go on a “good to honest date” with a guy the way it should be. After I said those words I could almost feel a relieving sigh come from her. I advised her that she should contact him and do the alternative close of "I think that we kind of know a fair bit about each other now and so I think would be good if we get together and meet up. I'm free on <this date> and <that date> which day is good for you?
         
        I told her that if he then does a “porky pig” impression and it sounds like he's making excuses then give up, move on and talk to someone else. In fact she should have been talking to lots of people anyway. Get some self-respect back and engage with the world. A few days later she told me she had been a bit scared but she did what I asked and he had "hummed and hared" so she blew him out and went fishing again, found someone else to talk to but now with the new confidence. She then using the alternative close in a natural manner, to booked a date and was excited, not at all anxious about meeting this new guy, as now she had reveal her inner goddess!


        Online dating is not where it starts and finishes. It is merely a way to market yourself and others to market themselves to a bigger pond or lake with more fishes. I know "market" sounds a bit cold or clinical but isn't nature like that sometimes in the animal kingdom?!



        You can fish in a pool with more fishes than just your neighbourhood dance, local nightclub or bar. Besides if you don't want in a few years to be complaining that your husband or wife is always hanging around in bars, maybe an idea to look for a partner in less artificial environment.

         


        You Are in Control


        You are in control and the same as in the offline life you can have three situations - you like them and chat and arrange a date, or you become friends and maybe meet anyway as friends, or if it's not clicking you ignore them. Absolutely no different to people you meet in everyday life and before there was anything like online dating in the first place.




        People can get so hung up with the idea of online dating but all it is a way to filter out the people you have no connection with or interest in, so you can possibly choose to meet the good you are interested in. As the pool is pretty large and because of marketing to a "targeted" audience, in other words they are looking for people to meet, it's a great place to start to filter.

          

        Never worry about dropping someone that doesn’t appeal to you. They're going to be lots of others if you keep up the positive message output. Again remember "some are going to be friends, others dates and others ignore. That's it - PERIOD!

          

        dating advice Stressing over again, do put up honest profiles and photos and don't be scared to talk about the things you enjoy. Also don't do the daters shopping list approach where you putting down huge shopping list of what you want in a guy or girl. If you do you ain't gonna get a very good response. Most people have a lower self-image than the reality. Check it yourself...if someone stated they wanted a "pretty, highly attractive girl" would you know what they meant or if you qualified? If you say you want someone with a good sense of humour and the terribly clichéd line "enjoys the finer things in life" (what the hell does that mean) you will get lukewarm responses, and for the same reason if you say you want someone handsome like Brad Pitt then there are not that many guys that think they measure up. However if they thought they did then they would also be looking for an Angelina Jolie so that is no help to you (unless you are like Angelina of course). Put down what you enjoy and you what you like doing. If you have a certain type of humour try to include it in the profile text or dating diary if you can, therefore if that doesn't put them off you can be sure they're likely to be attracted by your profile or diary and all your you-ness!

          

        Repeat the above over and over with a positive attitude. Don't get hung up on looking for the ONE. From experience there are lots of ones. The pool is huge it's up to you now to filter out who are friends, dates and people to ignore.
        Colin J Robertson
        Fish2Fish  Founder - Colin Robergtson
        Dating tips and concepts that work
        That's basically it for now. After I found my ONE I decided to pass on my experiences (and knowledge) with others and eventually created Fish2Fish Dating to allow people to put things into practice with my help being available for them everyday to get positive results where previously they'd had been dating for months without any success. With what we teach at Fish2Fish is how to put fun and excitement in to corresponding and connecting with prospective dates then actually going on a date. 

        Please feel free get in touch if you have any questions about the info here.

        All the best...







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        Wednesday, 10 July 2013

        He’s “The One”! – or How to Scare Off Your Date


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        When you go out on a first date you should approach it with a positive attitude. But there is such a thing as too much of a positive attitude. Positive they are are perfect for you, positive that you are soul mates, positive that they are “The One”. If you find yourself thinking in these terms, dial it back a few notches and step away from the wedding registry gun. For two simple reasons: (1) aiming that kind of enthusiasm at a person you’ve just met freaks them out and turns them off (2) Until you meet face-to-face you really don’t have a full picture of who they are.
        I would gladly exceed my minutes for you
        First dates are supposed to be a low-key meeting of two people getting together to see if there are any in-person sparks. Yes, yes I’m sure you have chatted endlessly online, exchanged adorable texts and have exceeded your cell plan with those five-hour-soul-baring conversations. That is all very awesome. They may very well be a match, but let that discovery unfold naturally during the date instead of forcing the issue and scaring them off.
        Beautiful emails do not make a relationship
        "There she is, this is it!"
        In my 20 years of dating one thing I can tell you is to never judge a book by it’s cover, or a man by his emails and texts. There were many guys who wrote me beautiful flowery emails but could barely string two sentences together in person. There were also many who seemed secure and confident online and then showed up unable to make eye contact and were clearly uncomfortable in their own skin. None of which I found appealing and encouraged me to hold of our determining our our status as soul-mates.
        Some Do’s and Don’ts to keep your excitement at bay:
        Before the date:
        • Do get excited about a first date, have a positive attitude and an open mind.
        • Don’t start rearranging your furniture to make room for their stuff and tell people to “save the date”.
        • Do re-read your dates profile shortly before the date if you met them online. It may provide some valuable topics to discuss or remind you of things you want to ask about.
        • Don’t memorize their profile or print it out and sleep with it under your pillow.

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        During the date:
        • Do ask what they are interested in and passionate about. Keep your conversation in the present.
        • Don’t fill the conversation with future plans for the two of you and how you want to introduce them to your parents (that actually happened to me).
        • Do be a good listener and enjoy the conversation.
        • Don’t give them the third degree. If you have key things that are deal breakers for you (Kids  es/no, cat or dog person, smoker/nonsmoker, serial killer/upstanding citizen) bring them up in a fun, light way. It’s better to know those things sooner then later and save you both some time.

        So, when will I see you again?
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        "I know we've hardly met
        but I just love you so much"
        Hopefully you will make it through the date without blurting out the names of your future children and you’ll have some sense if there are any sparks. Don’t push for a second date on the first date. Go back to your respective corners. Let the meeting digest a bit and consider if you were getting the right signals and feeling the right vibe. If you had a great time let them know by sending them a fun text or quick email the following day that just lets them know you look forward to the opportunity to see them again. Notice I said “a” text/email not 5 of them in the immediate 12 hours after your first date.
        Let that first date marinate, listen to your gut and think about what you observed in their words and body language. I suspect that if you’re really present and paying attention to how the date went, you’ll know what to do.
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        Friday, 14 June 2013

        He’s “The One”! – or How to Scare Off Your Date




        He’s “The One”! – or How to Scare Off Your Date


        dating advice
        When you go out on a first date you should approach it with a positive attitude. But there is such a thing as too much of a positive attitude. Positive they are are perfect for you, positive that you are soul mates, positive that they are “The One”. If you find yourself thinking in these terms, dial it back a few notches and step away from the wedding registry gun. For two simple reasons: (1) aiming that kind of enthusiasm at a person you’ve just met freaks them out and turns them off (2) Until you meet face-to-face you really don’t have a full picture of who they are.


        I would gladly exceed my minutes for you

        First dates are supposed to be a low-key meeting of two people getting together to see if there are any in-person sparks. Yes, yes I’m sure you have chatted endlessly online, exchanged adorable texts and have exceeded your cell plan with those five-hour-soul-baring conversations. That is all very awesome. They may very well be a match, but let that discovery unfold naturally during the date instead of forcing the issue and scaring them off.


        Beautiful emails do not make a relationship

        In my 20 years of dating one thing I can tell you is to never judge a book by it’s cover, or a man by his emails and texts. There were many guys who wrote me beautiful flowery emails but could barely string two sentences together in person. There were also many who seemed secure and confident online and then showed up unable to make eye contact and were clearly uncomfortable in their own skin. None of which I found appealing and encouraged me to hold of our determining our our status as soul-mates.


        Some Do’s and Don’ts to keep your excitement at bay:

        Before the date:
        • Do get excited about a first date, have a positive attitude and an open mind.
        • Don’t start rearranging your furniture to make room for their stuff and tell people to “save the date”.
        • Do re-read your dates profile shortly before the date if you met them online. It may provide some valuable topics to discuss or remind you of things you want to ask about.
        • Don’t memorize their profile or print it out and sleep with it under your pillow.
        During the date:
        • Do ask what they are interested in and passionate about. Keep your conversation in the present.
        • Don’t fill the conversation with future plans for the two of you and how you want to introduce them to your parents (that actually happened to me).
        • Do be a good listener and enjoy the conversation.
        • Don’t give them the third degree. If you have key things that are deal breakers for you (Kids yes/no, cat or dog person, smoker/nonsmoker, serial killer/upstanding citizen) bring them up in a fun, light way. It’s better to know those things sooner then later and save you both some time.
        So, when will I see you again?
        Hopefully you will make it through the date without blurting out the names of your future children and you’ll have some sense if there are any sparks. Don’t push for a second date on the first date. Go back to your respective corners. Let the meeting digest a bit and consider if you were getting the right signals and feeling the right vibe. If you had a great time let them know by sending them a fun text or quick email the following day that just lets them know you look forward to the opportunity to see them again. Notice I said “a” text/email not 5 of them in the immediate 12 hours after your first date.


        Let that first date marinate, listen to your gut and think about what you observed in their words and body language. I suspect that if you’re really present and paying attention to how the date went, you’ll know what to do.