7 Signs She'll Be Good in Bed

BY CHRIS CONNOLLY

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7 Signs She'll Be Good in Bed

Here are some ways to decipher a woman's bedroom habits

It's an enigma as enduring as Mona Lisa's small, knowing smile: Sometimes meek women turn wild in bed; sometimes they just lie there, waiting to inherit the earth. Sometimes the chestnut filly with the riding crop turns out to be all packaging; sometimes she's as thrilling as the signs indicated she'd be. 

It made me wonder: Is it possible to reliably predict what a woman is like in bed? The love scientists say yes—sort of.

"It's very hard to gauge," explains Helen Fisher, Ph.D., an anthropologist at Rutgers University and author of Why We Love, a new book about the nature and chemistry of romantic love. A woman's high heels, short skirt, and follow-me walk mean little. "Those are signs of intention. But they are not signs that this person is actually good in bed and is compatible with you."

So, besides that old cliche about how she dances, what signs can a man go by? Start with these.

She Suggests Thai for Dinner

Beware the "I-don't-know, what-do-you-want-to-do?" camp of passive babes. A woman who knows and says what she wants, even when answering a mundane question, is more likely to be assertive in bed. Good lovers take responsibility for their pleasure. They remove a lot of the guesswork. 

"Human tastes in bed are just as varied as tastes in food," Fisher says. "A person may like Japanese food but hate pizza. Some women want their nipples chewed on; others need you to be more delicate." Today's women aren't shy. "In the past, women didn't get to sleep with enough men to know what they liked," Fisher says. "But now, women are becoming more experienced and more demanding."

She Eats It Up

Take note of how she handles her food. "Watch how she uses her fork. Does she enjoy things? Is she sensuous? Is she poky and grabby?" says Candida Royalle, a producer of femme-friendly adult films and a veteran adult-film star. "If someone eats slowly, it's likely that they like to make love for a long time. I'm one of the slowest eaters I know."

She Screams for Ice Cream

You may find the perfect lover by comparing tastes in ice cream, says Alan Hirsch, M.D., a neurologist and director of the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago. Researchers call this "ice-cream hedonics." Dr. Hirsch conducted a study of 720 people, ages 24 to 59, in which he correlated personality tests, their favorite ice-cream flavors, their partners' favorite ice creams, and relationship status. 

Coffee-ice-cream lovers—found to be dramatic, seductive, flirtatious—are most romantically compatible with strawberry fans. Vanilla gals (emotionally expressive and fond of PDA) melt best with rocky-road guys. And mint-chocolate-chip fans are meant for each other.

She Talks Like You

There's a scene in Broadcast News in which William Hurt tells Holly Hunter that listening to her talk in his earpiece while he was on the air was "like great sex!" See if you get a similar buzz from your potential bedmate. 

"The first thing to look for is mirroring of verbal behavior and pace," explains Michael Cunningham, Ph.D., a professor of social psychology at the University of Louisville. "That is, if her pace and her nonverbal behavior match yours, her sexual behavior, which is also nonverbal, will also likely match. If one person seems really slow moving and the other person seems fidgety, they're going to have different sexual paces.

"If somebody says something and the other person goes on to another subject," he says, "they're not tuning in very well. They probably won't tune in during sex, either."

She Knows Who Sid Vicious Is

"Young women often aren't relaxed enough to have an orgasm," Fisher says. Older women know what they like and will tell you. "They realize that if they have frequent orgasms, it's better for the man in the long run." 

At menopause, "levels of estrogen recede, unmasking the power of testosterone," Fisher says. "This allows women to be more assertive and demanding, and many of them become more interested in sex." Sure, Ms. Keaton, we'd love to see your golden globes!

She Gives Good Lip

"The way you kiss says a lot about how you make love," says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., an L.A.-based sexologist and author. "I call kissing 'facial intercourse.' It's not just using the lips; it's using the entire body. If she uses her hands on you and presses her breasts into you and moans and groans, she's going to be a great lover. 

"The best female lovers also create sexual anticipation. They start with baby kisses, and then maybe lick your top lip and suck your bottom lip, and as they're doing that, they play with your hair, or put your hands on them. It's sort of like a dance." 

Speaking of dance . . .

She's a Good Dancer

As I was researching this article, every single friend I asked suggested looking for a good dancer. I was reluctant to include this. I'm married to a dancer, and I hate the implied nudge I get when a guy finds out what my wife does. Second, I dreaded asking a respected anthropologist, "So, if a chick is a good dancer, will she be, like, a dynamo in the sack?" 

Fisher didn't flinch. "There is a certain amount of dance to copulation. And dancing is energetic, which suggests someone who's in good shape," she said. "But I think what's really going on is that dancing indicates someone who's social and self-confident."

I'm so relieved. All those guys fantasizing about my wife are really thinking, Wow. Check out the self-confidence on her!

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Masculinity Is Killing Men: The Roots of Men and Trauma

Masculinity Is Killing Men: The Roots of Men and Trauma

“The three most destructive words that every man receives when he’s a boy is when he’s told to 'be a man,'” —Joe Ehrmann, coach and former NFL player

If we are honest with ourselves, we have long known that masculinity kills men, in ways both myriad and measurable. While social constructions of femininity demand that women be thin, beautiful, accommodating, and some unattainable balance of virginal and fuckable, social constructions of masculinity demand that men constantly prove and re-prove the very fact that they are, well, men.

Both ideas are poisonous and potentially destructive, but statistically speaking, the number of addicted and afflicted men and their comparatively shorter lifespans proves masculinity is actually the more effective killer, getting the job done faster and in greater numbers. Masculinity’s death tolls are attributed to its more specific manifestations: alcoholism, workaholism and violence. Even when it does not literally kill, it causes a sort of spiritual death, leaving many men traumatized, dissociated and often unknowingly depressed. (These issues are heightened by race, class, sexuality and other marginalizing factors, but here let’s focus on early childhood and adolescent socialization overall.) To quote poet Elizabeth Barrett Browning, “tis not in death that men die most.” And for many men, the process begins long before manhood.

The emotionally damaging “masculinization” of boys starts even before boyhood, in infancy. Psychologist Terry Real, in his 1998 book I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, highlights numerous studies which find that parents often unconsciously begin projecting a kind of innate “manliness”—and thus, a diminished need for comfort, protection and affection—onto baby boys as young as newborns. This, despite the fact that gendered behaviors are absent in babies; male infants actually behave in ways our society defines as “feminine.” As Real explains, “[l]ittle boys and little girls start off... equally emotional, expressive, and dependent, equally desirous of physical affection. At the youngest ages, both boys and girls are more like a stereotypical girl. If any differences exist, little boys are, in fact, slightly more sensitive and expressive than little girls. They cry more easily, seem more easily frustrated, appear more upset when a caregiver leaves the room.”

Yet both mothers and fathers imagine inherent sex-related differences between baby girls and boys. Even when researchers controlled for babies’ “weight, length, alertness, and strength,” parents overwhelmingly reported that baby girls were more delicate and “softer” than baby boys; they imagined baby boys to be bigger and generally “stronger.” When a group of 204 adults was shown video of the same baby crying and given differing information about the baby’s sex, they judged the “female” baby to be scared, while the “male” baby was described as “angry.”

Intuitively, these differences in perception create correlating differences in the kind of parental caregiving newborn boys receive. In the words of the researchers themselves, “it would seem reasonable to assume that a child who is thought to be afraid is held and cuddled more than a child who is thought to be angry.” That theory is bolstered by other studies Real cites, which consistently find that “from the moment of birth, boys are spoken to less than girls, comforted less, nurtured less.” To put it bluntly, we begin emotionally shortchanging boys right out of the gate, at the most vulnerable point in their lives. 

It’s a pattern that continues throughout childhood and into adolescence. Real cites a study that found both mothers and fathers emphasized “achievement and competition in their sons,” and taught them to “control their emotions”—another way of saying boys are tacitly instructed to ignore or downplay their emotional needs and wants. Similarly, parents of both sexes are more punitive toward their sons, presumably working under the assumption that boys “can take it.” Beverly I. Fagot, the late researcher and author of The Influence of Sex of Child on Parental Reactions to Toddler Children, found that parents gave positive reinforcement to all children when they exhibited “same-sex preferred” behaviors (as opposed to “cross-sex preferred”). Parents who said they “accepted sex equity” nonetheless offered more positive responses to little boys when they played with blocks, and offered negative feedback to girls when they engaged in sporty behavior. And while independent play—away from parents—and “independent accomplishments” were encouraged in boys, girls received more positive feedback when they asked for help. As a rule, these parents were unaware of the active role they played in socializing their children in accordance with gender norms. Fagot notes that all stated they treated sons and daughters the same, without regard to sex, a claim sharply contradicted by study findings.

Undeniably, these kinds of lessons impart deeply damaging messages to both girls and boys, and have lifelong and observable consequences. But whereas, as Terry Real says, “girls are allowed to maintain emotional expressiveness and cultivate connection,” boys are not only told they should suppress their emotions, but that their manliness essentially depends on them doing so. Despite its logic-empty premise, our society has fully bought into the notion that the relationship between maleness and masculinity is somehow incidental and precarious, and embraced the myth that “boys must be turned into men...that boys, unlike girls, must achieve masculinity.”

Little boys internalize this concept early; when I spoke to Real, he indicated that research suggests they begin to hide their feelings from as young as 3 to 5 years old. “It doesn't mean that they have fewer emotions. But they're already learning the game—that it's not a good idea to express them,” Real says. Boys, conventional wisdom holds, are made men not by merely aging into manhood, but through the crushing socialization just described. But Real points out what should be obvious about cisgender boys: “[they] do not need to be turned into males. They are males. Boys do not need to develop their masculinity.”

It is impossible to downplay the concurrent influence of images and messages about masculinity embedded in our media. TV shows and movies inform kids—and all of us, really—not so much about who men (and women) are, but who they should be. While much of the scholarship about gender depictions in media has come from feminists deconstructing the endless damaging representations of women, there’s been far less research specifically about media-perpetuated constructions of masculinity. But certainly, we all recognize the traits that are valued among men in film, television, videogames, comic books, and more: strength, valor, independence, the ability to provide and protect.

While depictions of men have grown more complicated, nuanced and human over time (we’re long past the days of “Father Knows Best” and “Superman” archetypes), certain “masculine” qualities remain valued over others. As Amanda D. Lotz writes in her 2014 book, Cable Guys: Television and Masculinities in the 21st Century, though depictions of men in media have become more diverse, “storytelling has nevertheless performed significant ideological work by consistently supporting...male characters it constructs as heroic or admirable, while denigrating others. So although television series may have displayed a range of men and masculinities, they also circumscribed a 'preferred' or 'best' masculinity through attributes that were consistently idealized.”

We are all familiar with these recurring characters. They are fearless action heroes; prostitute-fucking psychopaths in Grand Theft Auto; shlubby, housework-averse sitcom dads with inexplicably beautiful wives; bumbling stoner twentysomethings who still manage to “nail” the hot girl in the end; and still, the impenetrable Superman. Even sensitive, loveable everyguy Paul Rudd somehow "mans up" before the credits roll in his films. Here, it seems important to mention a National Coalition on Television Violence study which finds that on average, 18-year-old American males have already witnessed some 26,000 murders on television, “almost all of them committed by men.” Couple those numbers with violence in film and other media, and the numbers are likely astronomical.

The result of all this—the early denial of boy’s feelings, and our collective insistence that they follow suit—is that boys are effectively cut off from their feelings and emotions, their deepest and most vulnerable selves. Historian Stephanie Coontz has labeled this effect the “masculine mystique.” It leaves little boys, and later, men, emotionally disembodied, afraid to show weakness and often unable to fully access, recognize or cope with their feelings.

In his book, Why Men Can’t Feel, Marvin Allen states, “[T]hese messages encourage boys to be competitive, focus on external success, rely on their intellect, withstand physical pain, and repress their vulnerable emotions. When boys violate the code, it is not uncommon for them to be teased, shamed, or ridiculed.” The cliche about men not being in touch with their emotions says nothing about inherent markers of maleness. It instead identifies behavioral outcomes that have been rigorously taught, often by well-meaning parents and society at large. As Terry Real said when I spoke to him, this process of disconnecting boys from their “feminine” —or more accurately, “human”—emotional selves is deeply harmful. “Every step...is injurious,” says Real. “It's traumatic. It's traumatic to be forced to abdicate half of your own humanity.”

That trauma makes itself plain in the ways men attempt to sublimate feelings of emotional need and vulnerability. While women tend to internalize pain, men instead act it out, against themselves and others. As Real told me, women “blame themselves, they feel bad, they know they feel bad, they'd like to get out of it. Boys and men tend to externalize stress. We act it out and often don't see our part in it. It’s the opposite of self-blame; it's more like feeling like an angry victim.” The National Alliance on Mental Illness states that across race and ethnicity, women are twice as likely to experience depression as men. But Real believes men’s acting-out behaviors primarily serve to mask their depression, which goes largely unrecognized and undiagnosed.

Examples of these destructive behaviors range from the societally approved, such as workaholism, to the criminally punishable, such as drug addiction and violence. Men are twice as likely as women to suffer from rage disorders. According to the Centers for Disease Control, men are more likely to drink to excess than women, leading to “higher rates of alcohol-related deaths and hospitalizations.” (Possibly because men under the influence are also more likely to engage in other risky behaviors, such as “driv[ing] fast or without a safety belt.”) Boys are more likely to have used drugs by the age of 12 than girls, which leads to a higher likelihood of drug abuse in men than in women later in life. American men are more likely to kill (committing 90.5 percent of all murders) and be killed (comprising 76.8 percent of murder victims). This extends to themselves, according to studies: “males take their own lives at nearly four times the rate of females and comprise approximately 80 percent of all suicides.” (Interestingly, suicide attempts among women are estimated to be three to four times higher than that of their male counterparts.) And according to the Federal Bureau of Prisons, men make up more than 93 percent of prisoners.

The damaging effects of the aforementioned emotional severing even plays a role in the lifespan gender gap. As Terry Real explains:

"Men’s willingness to downplay weakness and pain is so great that it has been named as a factor in their shorter lifespan. The 10 years of difference in longevity between men and women turns out to have little to do with genes. Men die early because they do not take care of themselves. Men wait longer to acknowledge that they are sick, take longer to get help, and once they get treatment do not comply with it as well as women do."

Masculinity is both difficult to achieve and impossible to maintain, a fact that Real notes is evident in the phrase “fragile male ego.” Because men’s self-esteem often rests on so shaky a construct, the effort to preserve it can be all-consuming. Avoiding the shame that’s left when it is peeled away can drive some men to dangerous ends. This is not to absolve people of responsibility for their actions, but it does drive home the forces that underlie and inform behaviors we often attribute solely to individual issues, ignoring their root causes.

James Gilligan, former director of the Center for the Study of Violence at Harvard Medical School, has written numerous books on the subject of male violence and its source. In a 2013 interview with MenAlive, a men’s health blog, Gilligan spoke of his study findings, stating, “I have yet to see a serious act of violence that was not provoked by the experience of feeling shamed and humiliated, disrespected and ridiculed, and that did not represent the attempt to prevent or undo that ‘loss of face’—no matter how severe the punishment, even if it includes death.”

Too often, men who are suffering do so alone, believing that revealing their personal pain is tantamount to failing at their masculinity. “As a society, we have more respect for the walking wounded,” Terry Real writes, “those who deny their difficulties, than we have for those who 'let' their conditions 'get to them.'" And yet, the cost, both human and in real dollars, of not recognizing men’s trauma is far greater than attending to those wounds, or avoiding creating them in the first place. It’s critical that we begin taking more seriously what we do to little boys, how we do it, and the high emotional cost exacted by masculinity, which turns emotionally whole little boys into emotionally debilitated adult men.

When masculinity is defined by absence, when it sits, as it does, on the absurd and fallacious idea that the only way to be a man is to not acknowledge a key part of yourself, the consequences are both vicious and soul crushing. The resulting displacement and dissociation leaves men yet more vulnerable, susceptible, and in need of crutches to help allay the pain created by our demands of manliness. As Terry Real writes, “A depressed woman’s internalization of pain weakens her and hampers her capacity for direct communication. A depressed man’s tendency to extrude pain...may render him psychologically dangerous.”

We have set an unfair and unachievable standard, and in trying to live up to it, many men are slowly killing themselves. We have to move far beyond our outdated ideas of masculinity, and get past our very ideas about what being a man is. We have to start seeing men as innately so, with no need to prove who they are, to themselves or anyone else.

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6 Signs You are a Lazy Lover in Bed

6 Signs You are a Lazy Lover in Bed

How do you know you know if you should be putting in more effort in your sex life?

Ever wonder if you are a lazy lover? How do you know you know if you should be putting in more effort in your sex life?

Julia Austin of Madame Noire lists the signs that indicate you are a lazy lover:

1. Do you ask, "Can we have sex?": Once in a blue moon, asking this straightforward question is hot in an aggressive way. But if this is how sex usually starts, you’re just trying to skip the seduction, and that’s lazy!
2. Do you wait for your partner to start foreplay?: You have to initiate the actual, like, sex sometimes. Just adding tongue to the make out does not count as starting foreplay.
3. Do you get on top at all?: Oh no…do you just lay flat and let him do all the work?
4. Do you buy lube?: Edible, flavored, non-edible, glow in the dark—whatever, just buy some. It shows that you care about everybody’s pleasure and think in advance about these things.
5. Do you make him put on the condom: He might be better at it than you are, so you don’t need to put it on every time, but sometimes it would be nice if you helped out.
6. Do you have more than three positions?: You don’t need to try a new one every time but…if you’ve been together for a while and you only have three positions, somebody needs to speak up. Maybe that somebody is you.

It may not be that you are lazy but perhaps become complacent. No your know what the signs are you can re-light the fire with just a few adjustments starting tonight.

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How To Date A Co-Worker: Tips For A Successful Office Romance

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How To Date A Co-Worker: Tips For A Successful Office Romance

If you’re looking for love then meeting your Mr Potential at work is one of the top three ways singles hook-up. The other two are meeting through friends and online dating. 

Whichever way you meet, there are always potential difficulties to negotiate. For example, sometimes friends set you up with someone you can't stand and you're stuck having to be nice to them because you might bump into them again socially. And there's always the danger when meeting someone online that they'll turn out to be nothing like their dating profile.

eeting someone in the workplace has its own set of obstacles. At first it’s thrilling, exchanging glances over your desks and lingering in the staff canteen hoping to bump into each other. But it’s crucial to get clued-up and face the realities of these romances.

Dating a colleague can be tricky territory

Here are 10 top tips for a stress-free office romance:

1) Sounds a bit ‘Big Brother-ish’ but check your company’s policy on relationships between colleagues. Some bigger companies, especially internationals, forbid them. It might seem unreasonable, but you don’t want to break your contract any more than you want to get a broken heart. 

2) Even a decade ago it was easy to have a bit of banter and flirt at work. With sexual harassment laws now in place, be very aware of the difference between a little banter and ratcheting it up to full-on flirting. Remember, those laws are there for your own protection, so it's best to heed them.

Some people feel awkward seeing flirting going on in the workplace, so discretion is crucial. You can signal your interest to that Mr Potential with lots of flirting when others aren’t in earshot.

Keep your relationship subtle! [REX]

3) Let’s say you two have got it together and are now dating. While some will be happy for you, other colleagues won’t want their noses rubbed in it. You might want to show how loved-up you are, but keeping it low-key at work is better all round.

4) Being professional involves more than you two simply leaving the flirting and loved-up vibe at the office door. It also means taking care not to show favouritism to each other. Or overcompensating by going out of your way not to help each other. As a rule of thumb, use how you treated each other before you started dating, to guide your behaviour now.5) An excellent way to keep some professional distance is to keep liaising with other workmates about day-to-day decisions and issues at work. One thing people have confided in me, is they ended up using their new partner as a sounding board for everything to do with work. That doesn’t give you the full array of views available around your office.

6) It feels exciting now, but it’s far too easy to bring your work home with you when you work in the same office. Discuss setting boundaries on how much you talk about work - outside of work - to prevent any ‘boardroom-boredom’.

7) It might be a red hot fantasy sleeping with your manager, but when it comes to the real world of work, set ground rules if one of you has seniority. For instance, if you have less seniority you can’t expect them to give you a leg-up just because you’re getting your ‘leg over’ at the weekend together.

That would damage his position and undermine your own worth in the workplace. 8) Speaking of fantasies, many have exciting ones about getting frisky in the finance office or sexy in the stationery cupboard. And in my sex-tips articles I often recommend racy work-based fantasies for fun sex-chat. But the reality is, you need to keep it as a fantasy - you could face disciplinary action if caught in compromising circumstances at work. And it could seriously harm your career if you did.

9) Who doesn’t love having an office-gossip? Especially about colleagues’ love lives and your own? One study found nearly 80 per cent of office gossip was based on who was flirting with each other, who fancied a colleague, etc. 

It is one thing to share with workmates that you’re seeing Andy from accounts, but quite another to give intimate details. After all, he deserves privacy and you wouldn’t want him sharing gory details about your sex techniques with everyone in his department.

Leave your intimate relationship at the office door [Rex]

10) In Fifty Shades of Grey, Ana was swept off her feet by Christian in a workplace interview. But their relationship was far from plain sailing and emotions got tied up in knots… as well as other things!

It can be really tough if things start going downhill with your relationship. In this case, you both must agree to keep personal difficulties out of the office. You might feel you can't wait until you clock out to tackle your differences, but if your personal life starts getting caught up in your work or, even worse, if you start being petty at work in order to teach your other half a lesson, it’ll reflect very badly on you.

By Dr Pam Spurr, sex, relationships and self-help expert. Catch her on Twitter @drpamspurrand the author of The Emotional Eater’s Diet. 

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Is a Sex-Shop Coming to Saudi Arabia?

A sharia-compliant sex shop may be opening its doors in one of Islam's holiest cities.

Abdelaziz Aouragh’s intention to bring a “sensual boutique” to Saudi Arabia has left many surprised, some encouraged, and others confused.

The Dutch-born entrepreneur is the founder of El Asira, a sharia-compliant sex shop. The company was launched in the Netherlands in 2010 and is backed by the German adult products company Beate Uhse. The company ships its products to over 30 countries around the world. Aouragh hopes bringing his products to the Makkah region of Saudi Arabia will help provide its community with “a deeper meaning to sexuality, sensuality and even spirituality.” 

As it says on the El Asira website, “In the end, we’d like to see our Sensual Arabica product range to be able to build bridges. Not only between the East and West, but more importantly, between man and woman. El Asira puts women on a pedestal without embarrassing them. In our vision women deserve respect, so at El Asira, we communicate with them in a subtle and elegant way.”

The company’s delicate description reflects the inventory it carries, which is limited to lotions, massage oils and candles. If you were hoping to see a variety of dildos and other imaginative devices, I can sympathize. But butt plugs and blowup dolls don’t exactly scream “halal” (permissible by Islamic law). When it comes to creating a space to openly explore sexuality in the Middle East, it’s probably best to proceed with baby steps. 

In fact, Aouragh doesn’t even like using the term “sex shop” to describe his business. In an official statement posted on Facebook, Aouragh writes, “There have been media reports of a 'halalsexshop' to be opened in Mecca. This is a false report. We are not a sexshop in anyway let alone a halal sexshop, whatever that may be.”

He continues, “We have the ambition to open a concept store. That's something totally different. Unfortunately media worldwide have taking that article as their reference, without taking the time and effort to just simply ask El Asira. Please share this message as much as you can to change the perspective of the people.”

According to the UK Independent, Aouragh consulted Muslim clerics and Saudi sheikhs to “ensure the business complies with local laws and customs.” The subtext being El Asira products are to be used in the context of a heterosexual marriage. It doesn’t seem the company has plans to open its doors in Hells Kitchen anytime soon.

Even though El Asira doesn’t market its brand to wider audiences, its message about the importance of (good) sex within marriage is important. Any company that helps drive that point home is worth celebrating. But Aouragh’s motivation may extend beyond becoming a socially significant member of society. Sex sells and the Islamic community makes up a significant portion of the market. Bringing those two together just seems like a smart move for business.

The demand for halal products stretches across the globe. The Economistreports, “Australia, Brazil, New Zealand and other meat exporters have long profited from the halal trade. Malaysia was the first country to realise the broader potential. In 2011 its halal exports—including aspirin, chocolate and mouthwash—amounted to 35.4 billion ringgits ($11.57 billion), or 5% of total exports.”

The El Asira brand is promoted by Pure Safy, an “Islamic branding agency” that was also founded by Aouragh. The company sees Islamic branding as the next global growth opportunity. It claims, “The current total Muslim market is worth $2.2 trillion and is still growing each year with $500 million.”

But realizing his vision will take time. As the Independent notes, women’s freedoms are “severely restricted” in Saudi Arabia. Women in the Islamic state are forced to observe a strict dress code and must be accompanied by a male chaperone when leaving the house.

As Aouragh told the Independent, “It’s not confirmed but it’s possible.” He added, “Most definitely it will be in Mecca because of all the pilgrims.”

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10 Ways Sex Makes Women More Beautiful

Sex apart from creating intimacy can also help the mind and body at the same time.

It brings out the beauty in you and can creates better health of mind and body.

Krystle Crossman lists 10 ways sex makes you beautiful:

1. Your hair becomes shinier after a roll in the hay. The production of estrogen increases in women who frequently have intercourse which contributes to healthier hair.
2. Having frequent “nookie” can make you look younger. Three times per week or more can give you a youthful glow which can help with your inner beauty as well.
3. When you have an orgasm you are releasing pheromones which make you more attractive to the opposite sex. The more you do it, the more people will want to do it with you!
4. Orgasms are a safe and natural antidepressant. Serotonin and DHEA are released when you climax. Serotonin can help boost your mood while DHEA boosts immunity.
5. Your breasts swell up to 25% when you are having sex. If you want a little pick me up for your chest when you go out for the night without having to wear an uncomfortable push-up bra, have a little fun with your partner before you leave instead.
6. It is a stress reducer due to the oxytocin that is produced upon orgasm.
7. Oxytocin can also lower cortisol levels which help to reduce belly fat. If you have a few pounds that you just can’t seem to get rid of, keep on climaxing.
8. Dopamine that is released into your brain during climax will help to put you in a better mood and be happier and carefree through the day.
9. Overall, your health and well-being will improve. You will burn calories. You also release phenylethylamine which increases confidence, happiness, curbs your appetite, and increases focus.
10. Sex lights up the area of the brain that makes you feel more attractive to others.

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